My dad died 5 years ago and I’m still grieving?
I’m 16 and my dad died about 5 years ago. I don’t think about him often, as my memories of him are fading. But recently, I’ve been missing him so much. Sometimes I barely remember him, other times I can practically feel his touch on my cheek and his laugh. I thought I would be done grieving by now. I’ve been in therapy for about a year, and the only time I ever cried was when talking about my dad, which is why I don’t like talking about him in therapy. It’s too painful. How can I move on?
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I can certainly understand how you feel, friend. I lost my dad 12 years back but his memories still make me cry. I don’t talk about him much but I have clear images of how he cared for me, valued me and was always so proud of me. I have been through the painful grieving process and the only comforting thought is that -- he has lived a good life and is now in a better place. I’ll be praying that God will touch you with His healing hand whenever you hurt and fill the empty spaces in your heart. Hugs to you :).
I know EXACTLY how you feel....My wife was killed in a car accident 16 years ago...I still cry when I see certain things that make me think of her...I miss her dearly...I find myself looking for her in a crowd of people sometimes....Crying is nothing to be ashamed of....Its an emotion....Thats all... I'm 6'4 weigh 300 lbs, a big ol Biker-retired Truck Driver, big mean lookin SOB...I aint scared of SH*IT......I'm not supposed to cry either...But...Theres a very big hole in your heart...Heres the bad news....That will NEVER go away....Over time you learn to suppress that...But its always there....Heres the good news....He's STILL with you...You just cant see him...He will always be with you....Trust me....In your memory....Nothing can take that away....Just be thankful for the time you had WITH him....Thats what you need to focus on...The good things....When your driving down a street, and a street light that was dark, might suddenly turn on....Thats him...Sending you a signal that he's there with you....You just gotta look for him and notice little things like that....You will be surprised how often it happens...But its just little things, like that....A certain smell....A breeze.....He's there pal....Theres NO shame in missing him....The shame is in NOT remembering what he instilled into you....
You will never get over losing your dad. It will stay with you for the rest of your life. All you can do is work through it. Before all the memories of your dad fades write them down in a journal or diary. That way you will always have a part of your dad with you and you can share your memories with any future children. If you have pictures share those as well. Write about what was happening in the pictures. Consider it therapy. Sorry for your loss.
its normal to miss them 5 yrs later, i dont think anyone ever gets over losing a parent, maybe you can join a support group with other kids that have also lost parents themselves
My mum died 2 years ago and I know what your going through. I’m 15 and I was 13 when she lost her life to Cancer. I try not to think about it but every so often I break down. I’m gonna give you a few tips: first don’t make thinking about him a negative thing!, maybe set a Picture with him and a candle and when your feeling down just talk to him, know he’s in a better place even if your not religious. He doesn’t have to experience this disgusting world. Talk to a family member about him, rejoice in his memory. He loved you and although he’s gone he’ll always be guiding you. Message me if you want to talk more x
My dad died 40 years ago and I still miss him. If he could tell you he'd say to move on. Death is a part of life. You'll never forget him but you may tarnish the memory with your obsession.
Different people grieve in different ways and for different lengths of time. You are probably grieving in a natural way for you.