So, over the weekend a close friend of mine had a party. It was pretty rockous, and people started to crash at about 1 AM. Well, everyone crashed with the exception of myself and my friends fiancé. Not ready to go to bed we decided to go out to the bar until last call. We left everyone where they lay and walked to the bar.
On our journey some things came up that were a little weird. I believe I have the opportunity to sleep with her. She's very attractive. I'm married.
I know the repercussions could be severe, but what should I do? Sometimes I feel like i never got out to sow the oats before I tied the knot. She feels the same way about her engagement. I think we could both live with ourselves as I'm pretty much a sociopath. I think if I finally got out there and did something this crazy the urge would dissipate. It could strengthen the bond I have with my wife, but then again I'm a sociopath and can rationalize anything to my benefit.
I suppose the saying there's always a silver lining should be taken with moderation.
Thanks for any and all advice. I'm serious here.
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It would ruin your marriage. Quit looking for excuses to justify cheating on your wife... be an adult, not a scumbag.
I would like to start out by saying that you aren't a sociopath. Even caring about our opinions proves that you do care for your wife to the extent that you have a few doubts about cheating on her. A true sociopath would have slept with the other woman in a heartbeat.
Here's the question I have for you: Do you honestly love your wife? If so, sleeping with this woman betrays the trust that your wife showed in you when she married you. If not, go on and sleep with her, but watch what happens when you do.
Consider every possible angle of the situation. She could actually be the sociopath here, since she's offering herself to you so freely when she's engaged. She might not care if she sleeps around or not. Maybe she wants to get you in trouble with your wife by sleeping with you.
If you weren't ready to be in a serious relationship (same goes for her) you shouldn't have gotten engaged, and you DEFINITELY should not have gotten married. Your poor wife! Does she know you want to cheat on her? Probably not or I'm guessing she'd leave you. I would. There is no way cheating will strengthen any bond.
If you are truly a sociopath, AKA psychopath, you wouldn't post something on here asking if you should cheat. If you are aware you are a sociopath (something many sociopaths do not accept) you should be seeking professional help.
Also, the word is raucous.
Not "rockous."
You're married and you want to go at it with your BEST FRIEND'S fiancee? If you wanted to "sow your oats" then you should have broken off your engagement and never married. You need to understand that you have made a commitment and you have no right to interfere with your friend's relationship. I think the girl needs to make a decision on whether or not she should get married because it is unfair to your wife and her fiance if you guys sleep together to make yourselves feel better but leave them standing where they are. Also why don't you talk to your wife about how you feel because she may very well have a solution but whatever you do DO NOT sleep with your best friend's fiancee!!
So, let's see...You're telling us that you're married, and that you're thinking of sleeping with the woman who's about to commit to your best friend.
My advice? THINK AGAIN!
Just because you "have the opportunity" to sleep with her, doesn't mean you should. Chances are, you'll have plenty of other opportunities during your married life, and your response to each one needs to be, "No thanks".
No, sleeping with another woman WILL NOT strengthen the bond with your wife (period, EVER!). Additionally, with this particular woman, you're likely to weaken the bond with your best friend. Imagine how bad life would suck if you lost both of them!
If you're really dissatisfied with your marriage, then either try to fix it, or get out of it. Messing around on the side accomplishes neither of these things, and only confuses the issue.
No one will ever seriously recommend that you sleep with someone else when you are married. You're not a very good friend or husband if you can't resist this kind of temptation. If you don't care about being either... then I guess I wonder why you even ask the question, because no one is going to give you real advice encouraging you to cheat.
Let's play this out...you sleep with her. The condom breaks, she gets pregnant and you've destroyed her future marriage and your own. Or, you sleep with her, the condom breaks and she gives you an STD that you bring home and share with your wife.
Yes, definitely, that will make your marriage stronger {sarcasm}. Regardless if the worst happens or not, don't do it. It would be a complete betrayal of your wife and the vows you theoretically made to her.
That is disgusting and stupid.
If you don't have enough love and respect for your wife to NOT cheat on her, you definitely do NOT deserve the privelege of being married.
You are suppose to guard your heart and protect your wife also. She entrusted you with her heart when you married her. Don't you dare break it. Unless you want to end your relationship.
And stay away from being 'alone' in situations with people of the opposite sex, ESPECIALLY if they are cheaters.
If your not happy with your wife you need to end it before cheating on her.That just makes you look like a selfish bastard.Do you want people to think of you that way?
You are looking for permission to do the unthinkable. You already know what you should do, but you're not going to do it, so by all means, ruin your own life and your best friend's. I hope it's worth it.