I’ve been with my b/f for 8 months now he’s lost touch with most of his friends but he has one he’s known since they were kids. Let’s call him R for now.

He was so happy he’s met the girl of his dreams we’ve talked about getting married but whenever my b/f mentions me to R he was uninterested and blanked faced. My b/f tried to talk about me but never got any reaction. He told him I live in the city and I’m a lawyer and R sd well she’ll always be out and never at home (soo not true)

Then in February they both went out and R made a racist joke about me cos I’m Indian and my b/f is white. He also said we’d look odd walking down the street. R said him and his g/f don’t want to meet me until we’ve been dating at least 6 months cos then they’d know we were serious together!

My b/f was really annoyed R’s attitude and had a go at him.

My b/f eventually told me all this, problem is R and g/f are very good friends with my b/f ex g/f still and that bothers me. Since she’d cheated on my b/f and yet she’s still friends with them!!

My b/f still sees R and I’m excluded as they aren’t bothered about me my b/f said let’s just go there but I feel like an uninvited charity case. He said R didn’t mean what he said and is just narrow minded etc but hey are really nice people.

I don’t wana see him really but don’t want to be excluded esp when my b/f’s ex is round at R’s place and sees them regularly which make me uncomfortable.

What shall I do?

2 hours ago - 4 days left

he barely sees R now as he spemds time with me, i'm not jealous at all i just want R to realise hes made a mess for his best mate and made me feel awkward but by B/F thinks i should be the one making the effort...