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There are so many helpful answers on here, I hope I can add on to that. Giving foreplay is as fun as receiving it, so I do agree with others that he should either consult a doctor about viagra, or seriously commit to training himself. It will be harder to talk out since you waited so long, it will certainly be a blow to his ego, especially if you've been faking it. If you are on the pill and not using condoms, I suggest using them, since that will prolong it. There is also gel that you can buy from an adult store that he can rub on, and then put a condom over to reduce his sensitivity. It's also maintaining control in his mind, it takes me so long to climax I can practically read my husband's mind when he's thinking "dead kittens, carburetors, cell phone bill is due..." to keep himself steady until I get there. I hope you two can talk this out, sex IS important, it's vital to a healthy marriage. But so is being able to communicate your feelings to each other ;o)

This is a tough problem, but there are answers to it. He should see a urologist for medical help, if any is available.

Yeah you should consider delaying the marriage, but I don't know how you're going to explain this to the family.

Try to figure something out fast.

Can he get an erection after ejaculation? If he can, maybe that's the way to go. After "rubbing out the easy one", you can move on to the "real thing". He'll probably want a little break in between.

I tihnk a lot of men do that actually...

Ok, so condoms, thinking about baseball, using a "ring", changing rhythm are all things that might help.

I really think you should request an immediate consultation with a Urologist. Hopefully you can get a quick appointment, be very open with the receptionist so she'll squeeze you in quickly.

Did you search this on the internet? If you can get past the spam, I know there is real advice out there on this, I just don't know it off the top of my head. I have the exact opposite problem....

Your first problem was not being honest with him in the first place. There is little hope you will get what you want in a relationship, if you can't/won't tell your partner that there is a problem. So do so now - gently.

Being too quick IS something that he can be taught to manage, there are techniques you can both learn to slow him down, but if you don't let him know its a problem how's anything going to change? There are methods around it, like more foreplay for you, to get you ready, and less for him to make sure he's not so ready. Or having you reach your "O" first, then work on satisfying him.

If he's not willing to work on satisfying you too, and that's a reflection of the rest of the relationship - "If I am happy/satisfied, then you should be too". then it is time to re-think the wedding at all.

Well, I have been married for 5 years, and I have the opposite problem. I will tell you, without a doubt, DO NOT marry him until you have confronted him nicely about this. There are other things you guys can do to make sure you are satisfied besides penetration. It will not get better once you are married. This is a myth. I have walked through similar issues with my husband. Unless you tell him what's up, then he is oblivious. Sex, (no matter how many people say it is not important), is VERY important. It is the only thing that separates your husband and your BFF. Just let him down gently. Don't get argumentative or defensive. Start off by saying "I have a problem" and don't blame him. Make it as something to work on together.

Good luck.

Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual problems. The condition is most often described as being an inability to delay ejaculation to a point when it is mutually desirable for both partners. It is treatable but requires a lot of practice by the men. You need to discuss with your husbands your needs and convince him to try.

When it comes to talking with our partners about sex, panic can often set in. This is probably the reason so few of us do take chances with our partners, and try and share the really difficult stuff of our sexual lives. Here are ideas on raising those hard to raise issues.

1. Clarify the Issue for Yourself, Sex is complicated, your feelings may have as much to do with your own baggage and history as it does with what your partner is bringing to the table.

2. Try to Write it Down Don’t worry about floral language or grammar. Writing down what you want to talk about is a great step to clarify your issues for yourself and practice the way you might communicate it to your partner. Some people actually write their partner a letter, and end up giving it to them at a later point. Letter writing can be a powerful way to communicate your thoughts and feelings, and if done along with talking it can increase intimacy in a relationship in surprising ways.

3. Practice the Talk If you’re nervous about bringing it up, practice. If you have a good friend you can do this with great. Otherwise, practice on your own.

4. Consider Your Timing One of the most important considerations is when to talk. This will depend a lot on what you are talking about. Talking about your sex life minutes before your kids are due home (or your in-laws are coming over) is not a good idea.

If talk will not help consider counseling. Be patient and tell him always how much you love him. The more information you will find on the web site referenced below.

Masturbating will help to relieve sexual pressure 92% married women masturbate.

You tell him to go to the Doctor and find out what the problem is. If there is a medical problem than that can be taken care of. If it is only because he really doesn't care about you being fulfilled then it is best to end it now. You will not be happy and your marriage will suffer from this. If he really cares he will go to the Doctor and find out what the problem is, and there is a problem. Yes you need to explain that he needs to find out because it hasn't gotten any better and you thought you could handle this, but you are realizing that you are not happy . Life is to short to marry someone that you can not be content with. If you don't care about sex then it would work out, but you do.

Desensitizing cream. You can get it at porn shops - it'll make him less sensitive so he lasts longer. You can probably order it online to, or even get some at Spencer's if you live near one. It might be worth trying to find at Walgreens, too - they have lots of stuff like that.

While you're at the porn shop (if you go) pick yourself up something big with a battery chamber and a rabbit on it. Believe me - they help a LOT. He can use a dildo or vibe on you or you can use it on yourself. They evem make strap-on extenders that he can put on to satisfy you more. There's help out there, girl - go buy some!

Hey,

You poor thing. Sorry. He has a problem and he is not for any warm blooded woman.

I'm afraid he needs to find a woman who doesn't really like sex so the 1 minute a day think would work.

You need to cut the cord...break up with him...and move on ASAP.

And start that rebound sex right away. Like that night.

BC

I didnt see u say if u knew what foreplay is n it is obvious that he doesnt.SO) if I were in ur position I would find a Dr. or therapist that could explain the mechanics of satifying sex n how to achieve it.Make him go by hook or crook.

Sex is mostly the gravy in the relationship. But, it's important that both of you are satisfied with your sex life.

Have him do more orals, and massage you or do other things. Your man can satisfy you with or without his peni*