Is my dad selfish? (10 Pnts) •Short•?
So basically my mom and dad broke up like about 13 years ago, he now has 2 kids with my step mom. I go over to his place everyother weekend and he gives my mom 200$ in child support.(i've seen unemployed dads give the mom $300) he isn't poor, (we have a two story house and three bedrooms). So my dad always goes on vacation with my step mom (like 3 out of state trips already this year)! And all of us as a family haven't gone on any out of state trips in like 8 years!! He says he doesnt have lots of money but he got him and my step mom the new iPhone4s like 2 weeks ago. He also got an iPad. Whenever I ask for money/ allowance he ignores me. So is it just me thats thinking he's selfish? (i am 13)
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Yes, he is selfish. It may be time for your mom to have the child-support re-evaluated. That means that his income would be looked at by the court to see if he could give more....when my step-son was growing up, my (now-ex) husband paid almost $700 per month for one child, though we had two children of our own.
I was a good step-mom, and always made sure my step-son had what he needed, over and above child support, which the selfish mom mostly used to pay for concert tickets for herself and her boyfriend of the week, etc.
I am sorry that your dad is so tight with you; have you tried talking to him, not at the time you have asked for money, but at another time? Maybe away from the house, while out walking the dog or something--just the two of you.
Say something like, "Dad it really bothers me that Mom and I have so little, and she can't afford to give me an allowance...and I come over here, and you guys have the new iPhone4's...you go on vacations every year, etc....and we haven't even had a vacation in 8 years...it just isn't fair....I really wish you could give me an allowance. $200 a month just isn't enough to pay for much these days...
And see what he says...
Good luck!
Child support is an agreed amount or the court decides so it is up to your mom to go to court if she is not getting enough to help care for you. Iphones are only 200 w contract and you kind of need a phone..... Just understand as an adult the whole world wants your money and it dissapears very fast you can not even drive down the street without some one asking for donations or people collecting tolls. Your dad cannot just throw money around and survive.
He's pretty much being selfish and greedy, he may just not want to help your mom out with money because of their breakup though. That's how my dad was. He always done the bare minimum, he never even got me birthday or Christmas presents because he said he already gave her enough money, when he only gave her about 200$ every month.
You are quick to criticize your dad for being selfish, but you seem only concerned about money. Just check over your question and see if there is one thing that isn't somehow connected to money because I didn't see it. Maybe your dad is stingy, or he's a tightwad, but for him to be selfish you would be complaining about a lot more than his not spending enough money on you. Obviously you are in contact with him, you probably visit him periodically. Is he just as stingy with his affections toward you?
Does he not share his time with you? Does he withhold on his fatherly advice and guidance?
There's more to life and relationships than money, and I hope you learn that soon.
Yes he is, if he invests money in his new family and forgot his old one then, yes he is! He could have took you with him to all of those trips, and give you allowance but he does love you as a child, but ask him if you could go with is new wife and your half siblings on another trip later on. Just don't think he dosn't care about you! :)
Yeah that's selfish.. I would confront him face to face and ask him if he wants anything to do with you anymore and if he says no then don't be a part of his life..
yes ur dad is selfish
yes...sorry :/