My brother has gotten to a point where I’m afraid he might kill me or my mom out of anger. He’s in a relationship that looks like it’s about to break but the girl won’t leave, not the problem but I think he could be abusing her. I’ve never seen him hit her but he treats her REALLY bad. Her mom even says she’s not the same anymore. My brother is 19, he doesn’t have a job and he’s not in college. He’s made clear that he hates his life and family but it makes me so sad to see him become such a destructive person. He’s been treating my mom so bad and he keeps saying he’s sorry again and again. I want my brother to be happy but with him starting to act so cold so unexpectedly and fast, I’m starting to think it’s hopeless. We’re afraid to speak to him. He doesn’t do anything he doesn’t want to do. I needed to get this off my chest, whether I get serious advice or not. I’m stuck. He’s stuck. No one can see a way out of this. It looks like he’s not gonna stop this destructive attitude. And I’m really scared.
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Your brother is probably seriously disappointed in himself and the way things have turned out in his life so he vents by being this way. I know because I was in the same position not to long ago and I hated myself and had very low patience with anything in life and tended to lash out easily. I didn’t really realize I was acting this way until a girl I knew who is now my wife sat me down and let me know “Hey you need to improve such and such and I hate seeing you this way.” At the time she was just a friend, but it really made me look at myself and change the way I acted. So, if it is possible, you could do the same or get a group of people and have a sit down with him. Either that or let him overcome this himself. Good luck
If you think someone has committed a serious crime or you think someone's safety is in danger, you call the police. That is YOUR responsibility as a member of the family, community and human race.
If you're willing to sit quietly by knowing that he may beat up or KILL someone, then I just don't know what to tell you.
Alert the police. Get a home security system. Get a restraining order if you can. Call his gf's parents or another family member and alert them that she needs help and support. Be part of the solution, not part of the problem.