I’m 19. I’m not used to drinking. I had so much to drink tonight and I couldn’t even think straight. I had absolutely no inhibitions and did things without thinking. My best friend and I took a shower together in our drunken state and it ended up escalating into making our and fingering/eating each other out for over an hour. I’m sober now and I feel so guilty that I’m sick to my stomach. I love my boyfriend with all my heart. I’m not even attracted to my friend as any more than a friend but I guess my subconscious wanted to experiment with a girl. I feel sick.,, I just wish I never did it. I HATE cheaters. I’ve always said that there’s no excuse for cheating, and that it’s idiotic and evil..,and yet I did it. I want to cry. I would never want to hurt my precious boyfriend... What should I do? Am I a terrible person?
Answers & Comments
I don't see cheating if you did it with someone of the same sex as you. I don't think you should feel guilty for doing want you did when you were drunk. I wouldn't say anything to him about it unless he finds out and wants to know what happen with you and your girl friend. Is she going to tell anyone what the two of you did?
You truly don't feel guilty, because you wouldn't be blaming it on the booze! You cheated on your boyfriend because you found your friend attractive, and the booze lowered your inhibitons enough to act on them, booze does NOT make people do things, this is just a cop out to avoid taking ownership for your bad behaviour.
What should you do? If you have a decent bone in your body, you will own up to it with your boyfriend, and for the love of god, dont bring booze into the convo, it makes u look weak and pathetic.
You're not a terrible person. If you can stand the guilt, keep it a secret and don't hurt your boyfriend by telling him. It was a mistake, and you learned your lesson. Nothing is gained by hurting him and possibly ruining the relationship. Make CERTAIN however that your best friend never says ANYTHING about it to ANYONE, EVER.
Well, I guess you have been taught some lessons. Never drink that much again. In fact, if you don't think you can be trusted, don't drink at all. Being college-aged can be difficult when you're in a relationship because that is basically the peak age for partying, experimentation, and wanting to explore.
Think about what it is you want to do with your young life. Do you truly want to settle down, or do you want to explore first?
You can choose whether to tell him or not. But if I were in his position, I would want to know. The idea of living a lie is pretty daunting. He might forgive you. He might even ask for a threesome if hes one of "those" guys. But if he wants to end the relationship, at least you were honest and allowed him the chance to decide for himself. You are not a terrible person, you just made a big mistake (everyone screws up at some point), which I hope you never make again.
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if you recognize your fault by yourself and never repeat it again then it shows how much love u care for your boyfriend. So try to make your relationship much stronger as all people do mistake in their life but not many realize their mistaked but you did. That's a very good thing about your nature. So don't feel bad about your mistakes as it did happen sometimes.
Well its good that you feel bad because that was a very disgusting thing to do in the first place and makes it worse that you cheated. I also hope you learned your lesson not to get drunk like that. I would bot say anything about it to your boyfriend I would just show him love and compassion. Also don’t have sex until your tested for STDs. Cry on his shoulders and just cuddle him and tell him how much you love him. And NEVER I mean NEVER do that again!
What you do is up to you. You are not a terrible person. Im sorry there is not much more i can say. I have and will always say that sex while drunk is not really consensual.
Don't worry about it . I expect you are a nice person and not at all evil
Awsome I don't think he would mind . I wouldn't .