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This is long--and it works. Copy and revisit as needed, okay? Because you can do this.

Weight loss is about changing the foods you eat, the quantities of food you eat, and how active you are. You don't need to starve yourself or work out like crazy to lose weight or to keep it off. You have to do something many people consider even harder:

You have to make permanent changes, for your whole life, to lose weight and keep it off.

First step: Don't eat anything fried--that's french fries, fried chicken, potato chips, mozzarella sticks, etc. Limit fats like oil, butter, margarine, peanut butter, and mayonnaise, and measure them so you never overindulge. Stop drinking soft drinks and juices except sugar-free, and those sparingly. (One a day, tops.) No more candy or sweet baked goods, no ice cream. What, never?

You can still have these things, but only as a special-occasion treat, and in controlled portions. Yes, have cake on your birthday--but only the tiniest sliver on anybody else's birthday. If you're smart, you'll ban very few foods, only the ones which are "trigger" foods, where if you have a little you're going to have a lot. Even those are allowed if you purchase only one portion--the tiny bag of potato chips that go in kids' lunches, for example.

Drink lots of water. If your pee has almost no color, that's enough.

Get 30 minutes of mild (or more vigorous) exercise six days a week--a walk is fine, or active housework or yard work. If you're willing and able, more active exercise burns more calories, even though the secret to losing weight is less about exercise and more about what you eat. Lots of people who are overweight cannot exercise vigorously, but they can walk mile after mile, shovel snow, scrub down the bathroom, and vacuum. Note that your difficulty exercising sounds like you're just unused to it. If you work at it, your ability to do physically demanding things will improve. You don't start with a 10K run; you start with a half-mile walk-run-walk.

What to eat? Healthy foods, healthy portions. Eat low-fat dairy products, fat free if possible. (Skip fat free cheese; it's wretched.) Eat low-fat protein sources like lean burger, fish, and white-meat chicken or pork, one portion being the size of a deck of cards. Limit portion sizes on carbs (rice, bread, pasta, cereal) to the size of your fist, and whenever whole grain is an option, take it. (It keeps you full longer.) Eat at least nine servings of fruits and/or veggies every day. Any time you're itching to binge, go for fruit or veggies.

Ask whoever's bringing the binge food into the house to scale it way, way back or stop altogether. See if those bad foods can be stored out of sight as well.

Snack intelligently, planning something reasonable in a decent portion size before you're starving. Identify your "satisfied" foods, the ones that make you feel full for a pretty long time. (Simply filling your stomach doesn't do it, as you probably know.) For me, that's a measured amount of cereal, some berries or banana, and almond milk--holds me for hours.

You don't need to count calories, but when you're getting started on changing your eating habits, it's a good idea. Aim for 1600-1800 per day at first. You won't be hungry, I promise. Don't drop below 1500 for the day, since you're in your teens. The weight loss will be slow because that's a fair amount of calories, but if you go lower, your body saves its fat for the starvation it thinks is coming and uses muscle to meet your demands. You don't want that, since muscle at rest burns calories.

It won't be easy and it's going to take a long while, but people manage to do this. I know people at Weight Watchers (which basically has you doing what I just explained) who've lost 50 or 100 or 150 pounds and kept it off for years. Many of them still struggle and make the occasional mistake. If you backslide, get right back into eating wisely, not tomorrow or next week but starting right now.

It's not a diet, it's changing what you eat to a healthy variety for the rest of your life.

You can break it. If you don't, you will die. The more exercise you do, the better your endurance, the less out of breath you will be. You just seem lazy. It takes hard work.

You need to start out with a visit to the Dr to talk about this and to get a physical to make sure you don't have any physical problems. Then you need to work on eating a healthy diet. You can eat a lot of food if it's the right kind. You need to cut out carbs as much as possible, carbs feel satisfying but they aren't and they make you crave them even more. When you have a craving to snack or eat something like cookies or cake, have some cheese or some sliced sausage or a little sausage and cheese. You really need to work on eating more fruits and vegetables. Then you have to work on exercising.

When I was really out of shape I started out just doing stretching exercises, I did them for about 15 minutes everyday. Mostly it's sitting on the floor and stretching, watch some videos on youtube for stretching exercises. After a week or even 2 weeks start doing more exercises, walking, riding bike, rowing, sit up, whatever exercise you like the most. Get some barbells, you can buy used ones really cheap, get 5 pound barbells to start out with and start using them when you exercise to build up your strength and stamina. It would be really helpful if you had someone to talk to about all of this, someone who can give you guidance. See a therapist who specializes in this area or see if there is a coach at school or a relative who can help you out.

Diet....control your over eating...

Clean up your diet by getting rid of all processed foods, all added refined sugars, all fast foods and all restaurant foods.

Eat only fresh, whole, natural, unprocessed foods.

Start walking for at least thirty minutes a day every day steadily working to increase the pace and the distance.

Stretch, think yoga, every morning as soon as you get out of bed and every evening before you go to bed.

Buy a set of adjustable dumbbells and an exercise bench that will do flat, incline, decline and fully upright and start working out at home. Work out every day doing a full body routine and using progressive / increasing resistance.

Do these things or die.

Find some self control and work to develop it or DIE...

Stop making excuses or DIE...

Every time you find yourself sliding back into bad habits, remind yourself that if you do you will DIE...

The choice is up to you.

Until you stop lying to yourself that you can't stop binge eating and you have no self-control you will never get your problem under control or reverse it. If you don't have control over yourself, then who does?

It appears you aren't quite desperate enough. If you lack the motivation you will never lose weight. You are morbidly obese and need to do something before you have a heart attack. Yes that is a genuine risk even at your young age. So if you want to get slim and live longer get a grip and start on a sensible diet. Crash diets don't work. You can download sensible weight loss diets from the net. Tell everyone you are dieting, especially your mother who has contributed to your obesity. Weigh yourself each week at the same time and start a chart. If you stick to it the flab will fall off!

Only drink water