I know this probably sounds bad, but my fiance's grandmother passed away almost 6 months ago and he's still very upset about it. Sure, I would be too, and I understand that it isn't an easy thing to get over, but it's been 6 months and he still hates anyone mentioning her and hates thinking about her because it makes him sad (not just that, but he's gotten pretty angry at me for asking about something she owned and for barely mentioning her). He gets just about pissed off if someone mentions her and storms off into our room and locks the door. I don't understand why he gets mad about it, I have yet to hear anyone say a single bad thing about her (because, as I've understood, there isn't a single bad thing about her!). I'm just getting concerned just since I don't want to always do what he wants to do just because he's upset. I almost feel like he's using him being upset over it to get his way. What can I do to help him get past it? I really want to help. ):
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If your fiance cannot control himself after six months of this and is locking himself in his room, your fiance has a problem. If your fiance thinks he can just drop the problem, he is wrong.
One option is the two of you seeing a counselor. Try to find an adult who would join you for the first session at least.
A second option is for you to see a counselor on your own (possibly with an adult)
A third option, if you believe your fiance simply cannot handle facing the reality of his grandmother's death is to ask "Would you like to continue planning on our becoming married to each other?"
If he replies "No", respond: "I can accept that. Please contact me in the coming week if you change your mind."
If he replies "Yes", respond with a true statement that sounds something like: "Back in the year ____, my grandfather passed away. I felt ________________ . But, I knew he wanted me to continue to live and I did. If you do not think that your grandmother wanted you to continue to live, I am sorry. But, I will only marry you if you change and we can have real life together."