I have not talked or seen my ex in maybe 2 years. I am almost to the point to propose to my current gf when all of a sudden my ex found me and keeps trying to contact me. I have not replied to my ex's calls or text messages, but my ex will not leave me alone. (My ex leaves me voicemails stating how she found out about my new gf and wishes me congrats, but keeps calling to congradulate me...so I can tell there is more she has in mind) Now she has found my future fiancé through myspace (even though it was set to private.) Now she is trying to contact my brother and sis. The BIG problem is I want to pick up the phone and call her to say leave me alone. However my future Fiancé strongly does not want me to contact her in any way. I have been faithful and respectful to her wishes, but it seems like it will not solve the problem by hiding. Should I continue to be respectful to my fiancé's wishes or should I just call my ex and tell her to leave me alone.
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One thing that may help is to get advice from your parents. Maybe both your fiancé's parents (if necessary) and yours, and can come up with a game plan if you feel like this is all getting out of hand. Advice from someone who sincerely cares for you, but is also not in the middle of this picture will be able to provide a clearer opinion. I think once you have a talk, you will feel a peace about your decision (even though you may still feel afraid, confused or nervous...you will still feel a peace of your decision.) Just be open and honest with yourself, and your fiancé above all.
Best of Luck!
I normally don't say this, but I'd go with your Fiance on this one.
Don't you find it funny that your ex found you two years later while you're engaged? (I swear, some ex's have radar when it comes to things like this...)
Perhaps your ex found out about your engagement from a friend or something and is trying to rock the boat.
If push comes to shove, I'm sure your future wife will tell the ex to bug-off.
Wishing you luck for a happy wedding!
There is only one problem that what happend if ur ex gf told your future Fiance about ur relationship with her. So don't worry and told ur Fiance about her. She will solve this problem for u .
have ur fiancee call ur ex and tell her to leave u alone if this keeps up...i would keep ignoring her first though cuz maybe she will get the hint that u want nuthin to do with her...
continue to ignore her. she wants you to contact her it will stroke her ego if you do and her contacting you won't stop. You let your bro & sis know what is going on so that IF contacted they can be prepared to NOT give out your contact info that she doesn't already have and can tell her they will let you know she's happy for you.
She may say she's happy for you but her ego is a bit bruised (to put it lightly) that you have moved on and are happy.
Thats asking do you wanna get married or do you want your face clawed of by your Fiancee.I say to get a new cell to where she cant call you.
i would not call her give your fiancee your ex's number and let her sort it out going behind her back will make her mad tell her you want to tell her to leave you alone or ask your g/f to do it i know i would ring my bloke's ex up if she was giving us problems.
i don't know why your fiance, (oops, my bad, fiancé) would have issues with you calling your ex to leave you alone.
i see trust issues.
and it may be the vibe you're sending out.
meet up with her (make sure it's daytime and public.. and bring someone along to sit at another table or something)
and just tell her what's up and that she needs to lay off... otherwise she sounds stalky and who knows, could show up at your house... or at your wedding and ruin it..
i know you want to respect your future wife, but this problem will not go away by ignoring it.
Call ur ex and tell her to leave you alone...