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You're overthinking things. It's better to try and get rejected than to just not do anything and wonder all your life, right? Im a socially awkward/anxious type of guy and it's one of those things that I learned I have to deal with... Eventually you will start to get better at it and the anxiety kind of disappears. You just gotta do things that you feel uncomfortable with and also be confident. So what if they think you're weird? That stuff won't matter in the future. Maybe they don't and you're just overthinking... But you'll never find the love of your life if you don't try.

Only a decent/sweet guy will be understanding towards you about having mental health issues.

For me, I'm a 34 year old single guy who STILL has bad depression and a bad temper.

If something or someone hurts or makes me mad, I'm in a bad mood.

I've dealt with a lot of stuff that's embarrassing-I used to be a fat, I used to stutter, I have learning disabilities that are called "auditory processing disorder" and "dyscalculia."

I had delinquent classmates in middle school who kept saying I wasn't straight.

I've had messed up ex girlfriends and have been mentally messed with by girls/women (led on,rejected, made fun of, gotten attitude).

I used to want to end things when I was a teenager.

I've had teachers dislike me.

Before march of 2014, I was struggling for 3 years to find a permanent job (I only got seasonal jobs)

I was at my second to current job from march of 2014 until last December.

It wasn't until November of last year that I finally found a permanent/better paying job.

I could NEVER tell the girls/women I like the things I've gone through.

I suggest working out or doing things to relax.

For me, working out especially running helps.

I used to date a girl in high school who harmed herself and I didn't judge her.

My last girlfriend struggled with obesity her whole life.

There are decent/sweet guys who will be understanding and may have issues of their own and they won't make you feel badly about yourself.

I deal with my issues on my own without any family support (only close/get along with my father and my 2 nieces) and I have no friends as I've been friendless since 2008.

I'm not antisocial though as I'll talk and get along with people like some of my coworkers at my current job for example.

I hope that I've helped answer your question and take care of yourself. I mean it and happy holidays. ~Alan

Try to relax and don't expect things to happen fast. I felt the same way and then somehow i got a boyfriend out of no where and it's great.

I suggest try practice talking to people in text, you'll have more time to think before you reply, and can easily change the subject if you say something weird.