Been seeing a guy for two months now about 1-3 times per week. I stayed over Tuesday night and before I left Wednesday morning I asked if he was going drinking with mates this weekend. He said no and asked me I said no. He then said if his mates were doing something non alcohol related he would join them but didn’t want to do anything alcohol related. One of these mates is recently single after a bad break up. I asked if he wanted to do something with me if he wasn’t with them and he said yes and i told him to let me know he said he would. But I haven’t heard from him since. It’s not unusual not to hear from for a day but never more than a day. Should I take it he doesn’t want to meet or he would have text?
I don’t want to text him first as I have text him first and asked him to meet the last two times and I want to see if he’s interested in his own. But I’m worried he may be slow fading me which I am terrified of as I have been ghosted twice before and It hurt me a lot. Does it appear as if he’s loosing interest and starting to slow fade?
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You and he have only been seeing each other 2 months and you see each other not only every week but once or twice extra between those weekly dates? Yeah, once the excitement and novelty of "new girlfriend" wears off, a lot of guys will not want that level of togetherness. He had a life before he met you, and that time he spends with you he spends at the expense of giving up something from that life he had before meeting you. And he wants to get his life back to normal, back to being HIS life and not OUR life. Can you be happy with a guy you see like 3-4 times a month for a date instead of that intense time consuming "best friends spending most of our free together" arrangement? If yes, then just back off a bit and accept that the "honeymoon" of a new romance is over and both of you need to get back to dealing with the life you had before starting this romance. If not, then you need to find a guy who is looking for someone to spend great chunks of his time with a lady, not just someone to date regularly.
Whenever I'm in doubt of someone's interest, I test them by letting them know I have "a friend" who would like to catch with me. If you are busy, I'm going to meet with them.
"a friend" ALWAYS refers to the opposite sex. Otherwise people use Names.
Donny and I are playing late games.
Sue wants me to look at dresses with her.
Also keep in mind, It takes about 3 months to BEGIN to know the person you are DATING.
It takes about 6 months to FIND OUT IF you are really compatible.
Your partner might feel you are NOT compatible, which is why people MEET and DATE. To find out and be sure.
Anytime you have a question or doubt about someone, ASK that person.
Anyone else is only going to guess. Isn't that what you are doing?
They are the only one that has the ACCURATE ANSWER.
If you can't communicate with a person, you are either Not Compatible or you have no business in a relationship.
Relationships are about being able to work together. Not necessarily being Romantic.
It could be a lot of things - maybe his mate is having a difficult time and he is helping him. Give him a bit more time then ask him straight