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First of all, please look up "Alanon find a meeting" and go to some.

You know your mother is an alcoholic, and they can help you learn defense mechanisms to help keep her from ruining your life.

Find a different place to hang out with your friends. There is no reason to bring them over for your mother to work her way through- and that sounds as if it's what you are doing now. She isn't a cool mom, she's an alcoholic who is acting inappropriately, if not illegally. You no longer have to comply with her arrangement.

You will learn that you cannot change her, but you can change the way you live. Understand that a lifetime of being raised with this shapes your own behavior, and long enough on alcohol changes the physical aspects of her brain. You both have behaviors that are imbedded, and the best you can do is learn to cope, starting with not playing her games.

maybe you should move out, that way your mom aint around when you have your friends over

"My mom has always been more of a friend than a mom."

This is why you're in such a mess. You don't see it, but it's not your fault. When mom doesn't do her job, this doesn't end well.

"Believe me I don’t mind"

Of course you do! You sound perfectly sane, and no sane teen wants her mom slutting it up with his/her friends.

"I don’t want to be THAT friend that takes her away from them."

Has it crossed your mind that your "friends" are complete idiots? They are crossing a major friendship boundary here, and they know it humiliates you. But they don't care. Don't you think you deserve better friends? On the drinking, what kind of 25 year old hangs out with much younger people? Does this person know that if something goes wrong (very common) he or she will have multiple counts filed against them for each one of you under 21?

"What should I do?"

First, please ditch these "friends". As for mom, I assume you realize she's not "cool" in the slightest. But now that you're 18, it's really important you start looking forward. That begins with getting rid of toxic friends, and distancing yourself from a toxic parent. Find an Alateen or Alanon meeting and go to it. You'll learn so much in an hour your head will hurt! Then find an older adult (a relative, your dad if he's around, even a teacher you got close to). Even though it's summer and even if you're graduated, most would be happy to talk to you. You need sane, adult guidance desperately and you're not getting it.

The guys are all legally old enough and your mom may be a MILF and an easy mark if she flirts and drinks with them. Some guys love older women. Some women like younger guys. It's her life and I can't help it if it imposes on yours or seems awkward. Unless she does something illegal, there's little you can do except maybe ask your friends to stop coming over.

I have a lot of questions.

How can you drink if you are 18? Legal age for drinking is 21.

Your two friends of age 20 are also drinking. How?Don't they have parents or someone responsible?

Why are you friends with people who are much older than you?

Your mom's a slut.

Stop hanging out with her, apparently she never emotionally matured which means you have, more then lily, been programed with some screwed up priorities. "Whenever we all drink " you are already heading down her path. If you do not change up now, you are looking at your own future.

First thing is that is the way she has been wired to be.

Most people your age would find it embarrassing mingling with your parents and friends together but try to find a balance.

"believe me I don't mind" hmm kind of sounds like you do. move out and quit inviting people over to your mother's house

Stop drinking with your mother, stop inviting your friends round your mother's house. Encourage your mother to get some help . If you aren't happy move out.