sounds like you shouldn't be with anyone, frankly.........

The one with the least amount of damage. A person rarely gets rid, of PTSD, and their episodes only get worse.

You already have your wedding dress and your decorations for your wedding? That statement alone shows, without a question or a doubt that you are not ready for a relationship, whether it be marriage or dating.

Many of your choices are questionable: Dating your daughter's father who is not good enough to be your mate but you carelessly get pregnant and have his child anyway. Dating another guy for a less than a year and planning a wedding. Having a fiancé and still communicating with "the love of your life". Do you see a pattern here?

And, your daughter gets to witness all of your mistakes while in the next breath you say you want to think of her??

You are not ready to date, nevermind get married. Set that fiancé free right now. You are not worthy to be his wife or even his girlfriend. If you marry him, you will be divorced in no time. Just as your daughter is old enough to feel abandonment and deal with those daddy issues for the rest of her life. If you continue this charade with your fiancé, you are a cruel and selfish girl. Give him his ring back, donate your dress and wedding decorations and go find yourself because you are one lost sole.

Logic indicates we are destined to marry "the love of our life"; in your question, I assume that isn't looking good for the "fiance" here.

You're going to have to choose the one YOU KNOW is destined to live a full life with you; the other one will have to understand, and go on his own life's journey.

I don't think there's really any least damaging way to break the news to the one you have to let go.

You can't marry who your heart and soul both say you do NOT love......

If you want the bad boy baby daddy that is cray cray and will continue to treat you like chit, then by all means. You obviously don't know what is good and you are too immature to make rational decisions. My advice is not to marry anyone. Your fiancé doesn't deserve this and your cray-cray baby daddy obviously knows how to play victim and manipulate you and you think you can "save" him. When you want a bad boy, you get a bad boy. People dont change. Your fiancé should run for the hills!

Don't marry either of these men. You are clearly not mature enough for a relationship yet, so focus on growing up and on being a parent to your child.

You don't, you step back from both of them and give your love and attention to your two year old. Personally I don't think you sound mature enough for a proper relationship. If you truly love someone you wouldn't be trying to decide between them because there would not be a 'them' you'd be wrapped up with just the one. Build a life around your child and think about relationships in a few years time. Believe me it isn't nice, or good for the child when mummy keeps starting and breaking relationships.

I agree with the answers that suggest you not marry anyone now. If "the love of your life" is truly well, and is actually "meant for you", he still will be at some point in the future. The poor sucker you are engaged to now deserves someone's full attention and devotion since he clearly doesn't have yours.

You need to be single for a couple years and get some therapy.

When you eventually find the right man and are ready to marry, there will be no doubt or question about who the right man is.

Until then, you have no business getting married or choosing a co-parent for your child.

Choosing between a mentally ill ex-bf you have no current relationship with and some guy you obviously don't really love and have only been dating for eight months....are you kidding me?

You can not be in love and want to spend your entire life with a man when you are contemplating a relationship with another man.

You want to think about your child? Then you shouldn't be engaged with a man after knowing him less than a year.

Break it off.

Get your act together for your child's sake.