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An argument [and I mean a big one] would clear all this up and you'd get that distance, but at the same time it wouldn't be fair because like you say she's done nothing to you except have a few habits that are irritating you. Maybe talk to her? If she asks how your day was, turn it round. Ask about hers.

She sounds lonely and scared of losing you, so distancing yourself from her would do you no favours because she will cling more tightly. Odd as this sounds, smother her for a bit. With any luck and a smidge of skill, she'll freak out a little and back off. Or, you'll grow closer together,a nd you won't mind the mothering so much.

It's natural for young friends to grow apart after a while, especially when one friend is so needy that she can't manage to let the other friend breathe. It's a delicate situation as evidenced by the other reply here. The person who is needy feels rejected when the other friend wants more space between them.

You'll have to wean her off the intense closeness you now have and ease into your new life. When a situation comes up, such as when you go somewhere without you friend and she is angry, explain kindly that sometimes things come up suddenly for each of you, but you thought it would be all right because you're good enough friends to allow that to happen. If you don't feel like telling her each thing you did all day, tell her you are tired of doing that, especially when it was just an ordinary day. You could add, "You're such a good friend I know you understand." If she insists on meeting you when you haven't seen her at school, tell her sorry, but no. Maybe you have homework, maybe your mother has a job for you or maybe you're just tired and need a nap. You can tell her one of those things, and then say you'll see her at school. At some point you'll have to tell her that you'd like to try some new things in life and that you might not be around as much as you were (and then do try some new things). Tell her you are experimenting with new places and activities, and you might not have as much time as you once did.

You'll have to be kind, and you'll also to be firm. If you waffle back and forth, you will send an unclear message. Be consistent. Don't get rid of her. Do be sure to add new things to your life such as school activities or church groups or dance lessons or sports or whatever it is. This will allow you the room you want plus it will give you the variety you need. Also be sure to keep her as a friend. If you give a party, invite her. Keep in touch even though it won't be as much as before. Ask about her life and interests. Encourage her to experiment with her life, too. Keep up with her at school. If she asks you why you seem to be less interested in the friendship, explain that you just want room to try all kinds of new things and that you don't value her any the less.

I wish you luck because this is a tough thing to do.

oh.my.gosh. you just described me and my former best friend..I have to fake it the same way!!

just say no to her all the time and hopefully she'll get the point. If she acts offended, ask her what's wrong and tell her that you still like hanging out but you need space too!

don't do it!!! take a break from them for a little bit and you will probably realize you miss them. it just happened to me and it is killing me inside.it's been over 5 months and i cry all the time for what she did to me. it is awful don't make her deal with that it's awful.