Q: i still like this guy... i think.. i can't stop thinking about him but my question is, why hasn't he had a girlfriend?
does he even know i still exist?? does he even remember me? he doesn't ever talk to me and he didn't accept my facebook friend request i added him last week and i messaged him
this guy liked me in year 9, and he asked me out but i broke up with him after 2 weeks coz i wasn't comfortable dating coz i was so young. but BIG mistake! we only hugged and held hands so i haven't even had my first kiss yet.
i liked him for the rest of grade 10 and he liked my best friend (she didnt like him back) and me and him never talked and it just hurt me so much. after she left school without saying goodbye we were both upset and spoke to each other about how she would even do that, but then we stopped talking again i forgot why
and if he ever did tell me he liked me or something (which is unlikely coz we arent friends) then i would just be too scared to admit it to him and i'd be thinking about my family and friends approval. which is one reason i broke up with him, coz my friends didnt like him and they said he's not good enough or that he's not that good looking .. he's not super hot but he's not ugly either. but again, i dont think he'll ever like me unless a miracle happens in his mind and he wants to know me again coz im not gonna chase after him. apart from approval from friends/family.. i can actually imagine romantic scenes in my head with him and marrying him and kissing him! i had dreams of kissing him
i had a crush on a few guys before him but i don't even think about them ever and i completely forgot about them
i liked guys after him but now i'm thinking that i only liked other guys so i can bury my feelings for him... so i started liking this nice guy in grade 11 but he wasn't even nice to me, he was rude and mean to me..so i stopped liking him, i then started remembering the guy i liked in grade 9/10 again so i started liking somebody in grade 12 but he was a big bully, he was so mean to me and pretty much hated me
then i graduated last year and i havn't liked anybody since and i have no guy friends at all (i do nursing and volunteer with mostly women at a mothers hospital)
then i saw him the other week and began remembering why i was burying and hiding my feelings for him from myself and now i can't stop thinking about him and dreaming about him and listening to songs like this that i posted on this question
the last time i spoke to him was last year on online chat last yr and i was just talking about how i graduated and i was bored and stuff and it was a short convo,
when i mentioned some guys name , i said "do you know this guy?" (whom i had a short crush on at the time but he didnt know that)
and he said "no" so i said "oh nvm then"
and he said he's going to bed now, night
why did he just reply like that after i mentioned a guys name? and when i liked that guy in grade 11 we talked and i told him i liked that guy and he didnt really wanna talk about it so maybe thats why i stopped talking to him
and at my school we give hugs to people as we're leaving school on our last day and i'm pretty sure he was the last person i hugged before leaving coz he was the last person standing in the line
anywayyy!! i don't think he likes me anymore but i have no idea if he remembers me or thinks about me ever, he didnt wanna get back together with me in grade 10 after i broke up with him but he still didn't get another girlfriend
and i was sending everyone graduation messages and so i sent him one and said congrats for graduating and best of luck for the future and he saw my message and didnt reply or thank me
and i deleted him on facebook a while ago so i added him again but he didnt accept the request
and he hasn't had a girlfriend yet after me
he didn't even have anybody to take to his formal so he took his friend's older sister whom he definitely doesn't like- it was just a random formal date.. and last year i went alone to the formal (he's older than me but he had to stay in school an extra year for apprenticeship)
im so sorry it's so long!! i needed to explain it and i seriously don't have anybody else to tell.. do you think he everrr, EVER thinks about me? does he know i exist anymore?
Update:BQ: is the reason that he doesn't like me got something to do with what i spoke to him about? like saying "best of luck for the future" like i didnt want to make conversation?
or talking about other guys with him??
idk, did he even care?
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Well i think there is a chance dat he would like u again....he may need a lover...there r sme boys who like a girl...but pretend they dont like the girl...but if its real dat he doesnt like u...then its of no use...but try to undrstand his mind...
Well u should talk to him... Start the first move he might be shy.. Ask him if he wants to be friends.. Then take it slow.. Try to make him say yes... And if things don't work out... Well stay as friends and they r lots of boys out there.. Better yet there's a lot of boys in your school... 😀
I took the time 2 read your entire question & it looks like as u were young u liked alot of boys & thats the way its saposed 2 be, not tied down 2 1 guy. But hes moved on, u were both so young & u 'dated' 4 only 2 weeks, so it was really nothing. So as you've grown so has he.Seeing he did'nt reply 2 your FB hes not intrested. Just let it go & move on.
i think you are just infatuated by this boy. you are just stuck on the though of being with him. trust me if you do get the chance to speak to him again, and if things do turn the way you want, you might find out that it's not even worth it. Girl, there are PLENTY of fish in the sea and you shouldn't have to do all of this to find one. Also, he did like a friend of yours in the past. If you weren't the initial one he liked, then that should tell you something. You can do better.