This boy and I were so close we hung out nonstop, texted nonstop, and we were nearly inseparable. One day during a normal hangout we made out like a lot and I gave him a handjob and we really just experienced a lot- super fun. We talked and agreed we both didn’t want a relationship and everything seemingly went back to normal, nonstop texting. But then we decided that we wanted to have sex- but solely as friends, we agreed to hang out that next day but something legit came up and he couldn’t but we still talked about it and how bad we wanted to have sex with each other, everything was normal and a little spicier. Now all the sudden it’s weird, he doesn’t make plans to hang out, doesn’t bring up sex (even though he constantly would) , stopped having our intriguing conversations and said he’s just really focusing on work. Did the sex plans scare him? Is he legitimately focusing on work or using it as an excuse to distance himself from me?
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It's not slipping, he won't forget u
Well first off I'm not the judge, so I'm not going to make any accusations, you can figure that on your own. But I will state my point of view. First off, either you or your friend was a shitty friend. Now no one's to blame, no one needs to point fingers, but you both have to accept the truth. And there's no coming back from that. That's why friend is spelled the way it is. Because all friends come to an end. Hence it's spelled friEND.
Now no one wants to hear that. I know you're hoping for a miracle and reconciliation but the truth is that's foofoo. And there's no way that will ever come to fruition. All of this manifestation and you think that's going to happen. Once you lose somebody their lost. You can't get them back. That's just the truth. That's reality. That's facts. BIG FACTS. Now I know you want to rekindle what you had. But that can never happen. So you just gotta nip it in the bud cut your losses and realize you need a new friend. But only if you're willing to be a friend, too. Otherwise you're just in the same vicious cycle again and it becomes pointless and routine. If you want to figure a way out you have to figure that on your own. Nobody, and I mean nobody is going to hold your hand and walk you through this. As painful as that may seem. But if you do have someone in your life that gives you endless support then you respect that mf because they're going to be there through thick and thin. That's what REAL friends are for. F a fake friend. And that's just real. If you have a problem with it, then you have a problem with reality, my friend.