things he's doing. I decided to leave because I questioned his faithfulness for good reason, however the first week he continued to text and say he loved me and missed and hoped it would work on one day in the future. But lo and behold he has been online chatting up and adding scandalous girls and even went so far as to tell me he is sleeping with someone. Now I know this shouldn't surprise me, however I guess it just hurts, it hurts really bad. I did everything for him only for him to do this to me and I know we are not together and I was okay with that until he started throwing this in my face. Why does a 40 year old man have to be so cruel? I know Im better off, but I feel like garbage that I gave my life to someone who could be so hurtful. I feel like there is something wrong with me. I know I shouldnt but I cant help it the way he is acting. I just wanted it to be peaceful but instead he says all this stuff to me and then tells me he is doing that? I cant stop crying, cant eat or sleep. How do I stop this? I have been getting support from friends and trying to keep busy but nothing is helping. he is on my mind 24/7. I don't want him back at all, I just hate how he made me feel like garbage.
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ask yourself some heart questions..Why should I waste my time on someone who doesn't care and isn't willing to spend his time on me?Why should I waste my emotions on someone who doesn't reciprocate?Why should I waste my tears crying over someone who will never know, never care and wouldn't care?Why should I subject my heart to such pain over someone who doesn't give two hoots about me?Why should I put myself through such arduous torture of missing him, thinking about him, caring about him, loving him and gain nothing of that sort in return?Why should I get depressed over a man who can ruin my chances of meeting potential better men?Just move on and please do not harp on any past 'experiences' that has made you think that he likes you. Do not give yourself the opportunity to think that you might still have a chance. If there is really something between the two of you, don't you think something might have already happened? Why wait till the time when you finally realized that it isn't mutual?Think of his negative side. Think of that side of him that isn't favourable. Yes, you might say that you love him so much that you love his negative sides altogether. Girl, that isn't going to help. What you are trying to do now is to forget about him and to diminish all those romantic feelings you have for him. (Soon to be- had, remember?)Ask yourself: Why do I want to go out with a guy who has made me cry more than smile? Find a guy who will make you smile, dry your tears and is always willing to spend his time and shower you with love, concern and affections, and not this guy who has indirectly made you give him all that but he doesn't appreciates nor he accepts. He is so not worth it;Think about what you deserve and never settle for less than what you deserve;Go have fun and forget about him! i personally believe it wasn't love in the 1st place,you cannot miss what u never had.woman up & get a life,move on.don't cry that he's gone,be thankful you learn a good lesson;He's not even worth it. He is not worth your time or your tears.Do you honestly think he is thinking about you?So don’t go on spending your nights waiting for that one phone call you know your never gonna get. Your gonna hold your head up. Your gonna show him your better than him and you don’t need him in your life.
Men tend to rebound after relationships and it's very common.. it's not about YOU and it is not about throwing anything in your face.
Perhaps you can reflect on this relationship and ask yourself why you "did everything for him"... wtf did he do for you? Perhaps you give too much? I have no idea but you seem to have a lot of regret over doing so much for him.
Next time, do some of the taking.
He is a spiteful individual. It seems to me by my own personal experience that men in their forties are immature and are the biggest players! Change your number and remove him from any of your social network. Love yourself and start going on fun dates. Love hurts but God has a good plan for your life
He is hurting you because he is enjoying it.
You are hurt, because you have been in a sexual relationship with him. You cherish/respect yourself and you don't want someone reminding you that "Hey, we've been doing this before! Look at me f.u_c*king this girls! its so good!"
There are men that is sadistic in nature, accept it and fight that evilness.
For the trouble that he caused you, including wrecking your virginity or intimacy, you cant do anything about it but repent and promise you wont have sexual intercourse to someone who is not your husband. For your next future partner, discuss this with him. If he wont accept you, find another guy.
There are men that are beast in nature, accept it and fight that evilness.
you stop it by taking back the power your gave him over you.
what he does is none of your business just like what you do is none of his.
own your own feelings and quit letting him control them.