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Keep in mind, she is the same person you have always known. She just didn't share her sex life or her sexual fantasies with YOU! It is normal to feel betrayed and a little hurt but I am sure her intention was not to lie to you. She probably has been struggling with this for years, maybe even since before you knew her. That can be a hard thing to go through. Even though this is confusing for you right now, try to see things from her perspective.

If you had some big secret that you had to keep quiet for YEARS, that would probably mess with your mind a lot. Now imagine that secret could make you lose all your friends, might make your family reject you and could make you get bullied and teased at school. It would be hard to tell people. You don't know who your real friends are sometimes. The question here is: Are you a real friend or are you not? If it was YOU who told her some big secret, how would you want her to react?

Good friends are ones who are there for you through thick and thin. Good friends don't care how you look, don't care what you wear and don't lecture you about what you like and who you date. If you don't agree with being gay then FINE but don't let one small thing ruin a good friendship that you have had for years. Good friends are hard to find and if she is a good friend, you would be a fool to not accept her.

There isn't any reason to feel "weird" around her. If she knows you are straight then she will always respect that fact. Just like YOU probably are not attracted to every hot guy you meet, not every lesbian will find you attractive, even if you are "hot" according to straight men. Gay people are not h0rny monsters who want to have sex with everyone of their gender. Your friend probably has a "type" of girl she likes and you might not be it. So why worry?

Take some time to reflect on this if you need to but DON'T make it her issue. She was honest with you and that takes a lot of courage. She obviously trusts you and considers you a good friend and that is something you should value. There isn't any reason to treat her differently. She is the same person she has always been. The only difference is now she is living her life honestly and that is something that takes a strong person. So be a good friend and just be there for her. She would probably do the same for you. Best of luck!

Forgive me, but what I'm about to say will probably come off as a little rude.

Coming out of the closet is a very scary and personal process. It can take years for someone to admit to themselves that they're queer, and it can take even more time for someone to work up the courage to admit it to others. By telling you the truth, she's showing that she trusts you and values your friendship. What she needs right now is your unconditional support and unwavering friendship.

She's the same exact girl as she was last week, nothing has changed. She was bisexual last week and she's bisexual this week. It would be incredibly hurtful and homophobic for you to tell her you "need some space." You should feel terrible for being bothered by her sexuality, and you should just put your issues aside and support your friend. Her coming out of the closet has nothing to do with you, stop making this about yourself. If you tell her you want space, you will alienate her, and your friendship very well may never return to the point it's at now.

That happened to me, my friend told me in a really out-of-the-blue way, and I was mostly in shock for a long time. I'd always supported gays, because I know it's not a choice and there's nothing wrong with it, but it did freak me out a little that my best friend was bisexual and even had the potential of liking me that way. I think it's because most of my friends are girls for the reason that I don't like the sexual energy that comes with boys--I never know if they're flirting with me or not. But anyways.

She told me, and for about a month I just let it all sink in. I was really freaked out that I had changed in front of her so many times, and that we had shared a bed. Then I started to overanalyze everything she did, thinking that she liked me that way.

Eventually, I realized that it's really not a big deal at all. I did a lot of research and found that most bisexuals don't feel romantic towards their best friends, they see them more as sisters and brothers. That made me feel a lot better.

Just give yourself some time to let it all sink in. At the beginning I remember I considered not being her friend anymore to avoid the awkwardness, but I decided to stick around and I'm glad I did.

I came out to my friends bi recently too. Then I joined my schools GSA page on facebook and it's funny how pretty much everyone in the club is straight xD Not that I care haha. But if you shouldn't be bothered by this, none of my friends were, but that's just me. Just treat her THE SAME as you did before. If you really feel that you need time, tell her in the nicest and most polite way you can, that you guys are STILL FRIENDS but you just need some time alone to adjust to things. If one of my friends said that too me, I'd be completely fine, just for the fact that I still know they are my friend. It's always slightly awkward, but it'd definitely pass. Give it a few days/weeks and trust me, before you know it you guys will be like before. :) accept that she's bi like the way she accepts that you're straight.

Kevin is right. I can't believe you feel mad that she didn't tell you like it is your right to have all the personal hard to deal with information of another. Maybe she didn't tell you sooner because she needed more time to get ready for your horrible and hurtful "needing some space." How can you say that and expect that she should have been comfortable telling you?

She is the exact same person she was before. So, no, there is no excuse for you to treat her differently.