Engaged for almost one year now and my fiancée doesn’t share anything with me & he answers my texts whenever he wishes too.what to do?
Hi..I’m engaged to an unknown man,never knew him before but we came along in the beginning he was fine calling and texting me 24/7 but now he’s not that much into it as the wedding is getting closer I feel he’s going further away from me,we both live in different countries and our only communication is through chat and calls but he off his net and when ever he wishes he on it,it’s always me available and replying him in seconds.infact few times he kept me on hold becz someone else called him & he knows I was waiting to speak to him the whole day. I share every detail of my life and he says everything is ok never shares anything to me .anyway I want to remove this doubt before the wedding ..
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Perhaps you should not be marrying him.
Obviously you need far more enmeshment that he is comfortable with, and neither of you will be happy together.
Always better to call off the wedding than to go through a divorce later.
But you ARE very needy. That kind of neediness drains the love out of almost any man.
Only people who are whole and complete in themselves are able to make a marriage work.
My husband and I both had careers and children from previous marriages ... we never texted, but we saw each other twice a week and talked on the phone maybe 2-3 times a week. We've been married for decades and it is still very good.
One is born alone, we die alone (even if someone is there with us, WE make that trip without them). If you are not able to stand your own company in between birth and death, you are in a sorry place and your relationships suffer.
Care about your man, make sure you meet his needs, but HAVE as few needs as possible. Be your own person.
As for romance, that never lasts. And the more you expect romance, the more you get upset when the infatuation dies out. This is why arranged marriages tend to work better .. neither party expects the limerance to last because it was never there in the first place.
Love grows very slowly, starting 2-3 years after marriage .... it is not like romance at all.