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The groom could go it alone, or take whoever he wants with him, and them knowing and understanding jewelry would be a good thing. His Mom, though that is a little unusual, his Dad, his best man or a sibling or somebody anybody else he wants. There is no real etiquette for this.

The fiancee can go if he and she both want that. I have heard of the groom going first, picking out several rings in his price range that work for him, then letting the bride come and choose one of them. Some brides want to be surprised by the ring, others want some style control and want to describe what they want, or actually pick it out. It is up to the groom first, and then his bride what to do.

A bride I knew at work had her ring designed by her and the groom, together.

I love nice jewelry and I see absolutely nothing wrong with your boyfriend purchasing your ring from your mother. I am past time for picking out an engagement ring, but I would rather have one that I truly love than a very small one that my boyfriend picked out because he couldn't afford anything larger. Now if the boyfriend objects to purchasing from your mother, that's another ballgame. You definitely don't want to hurt his feelings or his pride. The size of the diamond doesn't matter at all if it will cause hurt feelings.

There's no right or wrong way to do this. Plenty of guys get the ring as a surprise, and for that, it's not bizarre that he'd want his mom's help in selecting one. It doesn't make him Norman Bates! And then there are other couples who do it together. This guarantees she'll like it, but takes away from the surprise.

The important thing is that your daughter understand she can and should speak up if the ring isn't her style. I hated the first ring my hubby found for me, and we simply went together and got a different one.

i'd be a little concerned about a fiance who wants his mummy with him when buying an engagement ring and a mother who expects to be that involved.

i don't think he need take his fiance either - many men prefer to choose the ring and present it at a special moment. some take their dads or a close friend but not mummy!

to me it sounds like both mothers are far too interested at this stage and both mothers need to step back. sorry but you did ask - let the kids be, this is their life!

good luck to the happy couple - happy wedding!

My husband pick out the engagement Ring himself

I think that is the most common way

I guess if you want a women opinion a mom or the person he is asking could go ring shopping

I would think a friend would be better

Let him go with his mother it. But if I were in his position I'd have taken both to shop for the engagement ring. Not sure if there's any etiquette related to it.

You are right. It should be done by the two parties to be married. He should take his fiancee so she can pick it out, she's the one who has to wear it. The mothers have nothing to do with it.

Usually, the guy solicits opinions from anyone that knows the bride well -- her best girlfriends or sister.

But these days, ladies have distinct tastes that they are willing to make known about what they like and more & more ladies are involved in the selection of their own engagement ring.

There really is no etiquette on it, but how well does his mother know what the fiance would like???

If the groom wants to surprise the bride, he picked it out himself... but there's no really "etiquette" on the matter. If the groom-to-be feels a little clueless and wants advice from a woman he trusts (aka, Mom), I don't see anything wrong with that.

If it's to be a surprise the groom and whom ever he wants help from can pick it out. If the bride to be knows about it she and the groom should go together to pick it out.