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Definitely not. Most of us would be happy we don’t to be always the one to have to kill the spider in the bathroom.

I'm not sure why your job would repel men? You're making a living . And if all of this is true, you're exposing yourself to dangerous chemicals. I wouldn't take that job. But that's just me.

Perhaps it is something in your character or demeanor. Maybe you give off vibes about wanting to be alone. If you are living comfortably and have no real debts or money issues, then if you find a man, that could all change. Some people are very independent and maybe that is you. I think that some people look at me and think that I am self sufficient and that I do not need nor want anyone. It is partially true. I've had a terrible time trying to deal with certain men. I'm tired and I just want to be alone. However, I am attracting a lot of women now - go figure!! and they are a bit much. I'm in my 60's and I would have thought that by now, attracting people would end for me - but it hasn't. Do you wear some sort of uniform for your job? Maybe the uniform is not all that attractive? How do you dress when you are not working? If you dress in a casual and sloppy sort of way, that might be a way of not attracting men. How did you meet men in the past? Did they just come along and show interest in you? If you haven't had a make over in a while, try that. Get your hair done, mani & pedi and that sort of thing and see if that doesn't attract men to you. It really depends upon what you seek from these men - do you just want the physical aspect or do you want more?

I am a guy. Here is the truth.

You being in the Pest Control Industry is not unattractive to men. In fact, I (at my age of 27) would be attracted to a girl who was in that field, ESPECIALLY if she owned her own business and started it up from scratch. It would show she's intelligent, hard working, and creative. If she simply works for a pest control company, that's no longer "attractive", but its not "unattractive" either as long as she makes decent money doing it. I dont really date girls for their career, and 99% of guys dont date girls for their career. My wife who I married was an au pair making like $150 a week lmao and is still to this day working on citizenship. I didnt care about her career because I liked/loved HER.

I think your problem as to why you are single, goes beyond your career: For one, you are still single in your early 40's. You just hit 41. Yet, you aren't married yet- why? You should have gotten married in your 20's. I talk about what girls I'd be attracted to, but truthfully, I got married last year as as guy, at age 26. Most people marry by age 30. You being 41, means you basically sl*utted it up, had sex with a tooonnn of hot guys who didnt care about you, continually got used like a chewtoy, and now at 41 you are wondering (WAY too late) why you are still single?

I think you just made some seriously bad life choices, defiantly and stubbornly continued to make those bad choices, with reckless abandon, and now at 41 it is kind of late to wanna change. And I think because of "cognitive dissonance", you probably have rationalized and justified your bad choices in your head, so that you feel better about them.

You are "ruined", now. Spoiled. You've had sex with so many "alphas" that you will never be content, satisfied, or happy by dating an average guy in your league. You'll be turned off by him, feel he is too much of a loser, not tall or muscular or manly enough, maybe his dong isnt 8 inches like you like, not cute enough in the face, whatever.

Girls who go for men above their leagues for a long time, essentially ruin their future because they get so spoiled by the hot guys who will bang them out (but not date them of course), that when it comes time for them to actually settle down and find a long term mate...... they can't find one who meets her standards. Because women refuse to accept the reality that men have lower standards for who they casually f*uccc, and higher standards for who they commit to and marry.

So, anyway, I think this is your real biggest issue. The job is just a distraction, fairy dust. It doesnt impact your problem. It's just an excuse to avoid facing the harsh reality of your bad decisions.

Your friend might also be making equally stupid decisions as you, (or she doesnt wanna break the reality to you, or she is just ignorant), so she comes up with some stupid reason like "your job".

Dude trust me, when I wanna date a girl, I look at her looks, her personality, compared to my own, and I also take into account how many partners shes had in her life. I dont judge her job. I dont even care about her job.

(yes btw, her number of partners does matter, guys dont want someone used up), so as a girl when you bang a lot of hot guys, you run the risk of 1) raising your own standards unrealistically and becoming "ruined" and "soiled" by that, and 2) simultaneously turning guys off, bcuz you now have a huge "track record" of "sex partners" and even if you lie about this, guys JUST KNOW. We just... know. We can tell.

So yeah, this is kind of the issue. At least now you know. Hope my answer helped you some at least

You are thinking too long to understand yourself and in the process now you are 41. Now smile at someone !

Thoughts about what?

You are single because you have wanted to be so.

You like the idea of have someone but it is not as important to your life as it is to others.

Nothing wrong with that.

You're 41................................. a girl's prime time to find the man of her dreams and to marry him is in her 25s to 35s range, especially because that's when a women's eggs are nice and healthy. Every year after 30 and especially after 35 the chances for miscarriage or a defect such as down syndrome increase in a baby which is why most women have a baby when they're over 25 to 35.

Also most guys will lie and tell 41 year old girls they look like they are in their 20's but everybody knows this is a lie and they are just trying to **** you. Everybody knows this, it's common sense to me.

The only reason I can think that you are still alone is that you think you could still attract a confident bad boy type man who doesn't take sh!t from anybody and because they're like a Messiah. All those guys are gone, they were smart enough to find a good girl in their 25 to 35s

the reason you haven't found one is because you are most likely 100% a liberal and an atheist. also marriage is a death contract by the state so the only people you will be able to attract in your 40's are the pu$$y whipped nice guys who are too nice.