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It is good that you added the extra information, otherwise, I would think: you ask such a question?!!!

No, you do not owe him anything, but just out of plain fellow feeling, you could try seeing it from his point of view too. It is not just you who have been betrayed, he has and in fact, far worse than you, because he IS married to her; at least, you can "lick your wounds" and carry on; he has the mess of dealing with a treacherous woman!

There are many things that we do not NEED to do, but we do them, because we are trying to be decent human beings and one is for you to reassure him that you had NO IDEA that she was married and as soon as you found out, you ended it FAST. That will also help to clear his mind, because no doubt, his wife is trying to "blab her way through" an awkward situtation.

Of course, it is an emotional response and why the man deserves some answers!

IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT IF YOU DIDN'T KNOW...IT IS ALL HER FAULT ....I THINK YOU SHOULD TELL HIM EVERYTHING SINCE SHE WILL LIE THRU HER TEETH IF HE ASKS HER!!!

IF THE TABLES WERE TURNED YOU KNOW THE WOMAN WOULD SPILL HER GUTS!!!

I BELIEVE CHEATING IS ALL CAUSED BY WOMEN........

IF A MAN CHEATS ON HIS WIFE HE USUALLY CHEATS WITH A DIRTY PIG WHO WANTS HIS BIG DONG OR A WOMAN WHO WANTS HIS MONEY...SO SHE DOES NOT CARE IF HE IS MARRIED.

IF A WOMAN CHEATS ITS HER CHOICE WHO SHE HAS SEX WITH ...AND 99 PERCENT OF MEN WILL NOT CARE IF SHE IS MARRIED IN A RELATIONSHIP. SO IN THE END IT IS THE WOMEN WHO DECIDE.....

NOW IF SOMEONE IF TOTALLY UNAWARE THAT THE PERSON WAS MARRIED...THEN IT IS THAT PERSONS FAULT FOR LYING!!

Ask him for a public meeting , make sure you tell him that you did not know that she was married and that you want to stop it . U don't want a lying cheating b .

Put yourself in his shoes. If your wife was seeing someone else, would you want answers from that person? I would tell him you honestly didn't know she was married -and if you had known, you wouldn't have been with her- and you aren't gonna see her again. Beyond that, you don't owe him.

The worst thing you can do is try and piss him off more. I've heard on the news about jealous husbands killing the person their wives were cheating with.

U didn't see no signs she could have been married or in some sort of relationship with someone? I mean u should at least be a man and tell him that you been sleepin wit his wife for 3 months, but u didn't know she was in a marriage. I mean both of y'all need to take some responsibility of ur actions. U been going wit his wife for 3months and she needs to b straight up with her husband also. U can't just say he needs to leave u alone he's not ur the one been messing wit his wife so he's not going to leave u alone he wanna know how long y'all been having yall little affair

He's pissed better hope you never meet in person husbands don't take kindly to other men messing with their wives.

What I don't understand is in 3 months of you dating her, how can you not notice her hands. Maybe she was not wearing a wending ring. Perhaps she took it off, or she lost it, or she was never given a wedding ring which should make her AVAILABLE. If you saw a ring around her finger, then maybe you didn't know the ring she was wearing meant that she is married.

Another thing I don't understand is why you never inquired about her martial status.

Lastly I don't think you owe him anything. I think his wife owes him an answer, so I agree with what you said.

I think the answer is dependent on your respect for the institution of marriage. If it is something your respect, you not only will immediately break off your relationship with the woman, you would be happy to inform her husband and answer any question honestly showing him empathy in the process and how you have both been duped. But of course ending the exchange with the husband in a single conversation. But if you don't respect the institution of marriage you will blow him off completely and do what ever you want.

I'm with you, bud. Tell him you've no intention of being a part of their marriage and you've got nothing to say.

You don't know what she's been telling him. He's angry understandably, but probably just wants to know what the truth of the whole thing is. You're absolutely right that it's the wife that owes him anything, but she sounds like she's been spinning so many lies for so long he probably doesn't know what to believe. So I guess it comes down to whether you're going to keep tapping that *** or not...

I wouldn't recommend a face to face meet, as that just presents an opportunity to get punched in the face, and then beat his ***... but a conversation on the phone or through texts or whatever I think would be a great idea. Just tell him that you had no idea that she was married, that she lied to you about it. Let him ask any questions that are bothering him and answer them if you can. Then just let him know that you're done with her (if you indeed are... or just want to convince him you are if you're not...)

Once he has your side of the story... (ie: Called bullshit on all her lies) it's highly unlikely he'll keep bugging you about it.

go get coffee together. you guys have A LOT in common and may end up becoming best buds out of this.. what a punch in the gut that would be for her. You both would get some answers, a new friend and have a mutual "enemy".. win - win - win.