I am an Indian girl, born and brought up in the United States. I have American tastes, however; in terms of music, movies, food, etc, so I always end up dating/liking white guys. It’s not that I have anything against guys of my own race, but I just don’t have much in common with them. however, my friends constantly tell me that the reason why a lot of white guys don’t like me back, or date me for a while and break my heart, is because I am Indian. is this true, is it a deal breaker if the girl who likes you is of a different ethnic background? I cant think of any other reason, I am a hard working college student, good looking, caring, etc. I am 21 years old, and I keep getting my heart broken…so now I’m wondering if my friends are right. what do you think?
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why would u even pursue non-indian guys in the first place?? "It's not that i have anything against guys of my own race but i just don't have much in common with them"....that sounds racist to me. U need some self-esteem. Take some counselling classes.
I don't have any questions for you to answer, but would like to help. It's very common to think someone is great, have feelings for them, then realize there just isn't a connection. You can't always explain the exact reason you don't want to be w/someone romantically. It's a chemistry thing. It's safe to say the relationship probably wouldn't have worked out once you joined the military, if she was having issues w/distance already. A fifteen hour distance when you guys haven't been together more than a few months is going to put major stress on *any* relationship, even a long-term one. It sounds like you were being fairly affectionate, but it's possible she was wanting you to be a little more persistent. Sometimes, by being understanding & thinking a girl wants to wait to have sex, a guy can be a little too standoffish. You have to ask her what her boundaries are to know for sure. I don't think you should try to "get her back." She may agree to try again, but you're going to end up right back where you are now. It's going to be an emotional battle for her, knowing you're going to be even farther away before long. Girls are good @ overthinking things & second-guessing, so it's likely she'd just convince herself (again) that you guys aren't meant to be. It's nice that you've agreed to be friends, but don't be afraid to date other girls & just have fun. It's probably wise not to get into any relationships before you go overseas, so be careful w/that. Good luck!
No, your friends are not right. I don't think your race has anything to do with it. There must be some type of vibe you're giving out when out and about, but only you know what that is. It seems if you're looking for someone they run, but if you're not looking then you'll find them..weird but that's how it seems. Sometimes take what your friends say with a grain of salt and think for yourself. I know they mean well, but sometimes it's not the best advice.
ethnic backgrounds dont and should never make a difference in a relationship. i think if you keep getting your heart broken that you should think about changing your taste in men. think about interests and free time, just let lose and make sure that your not stressing out about thinking if hes going to break up with you before it even starts.. be happy and live life:D
Thats not true at all. Although there can sometimes be racial barriers in relationships, there are plenty of guys who would be interested in you. In fact, in my spanish class, there is a arabian girl who sits right next to me. She was born in America, but her parents are from Saudi Arabia (I think). She has become americanized for the most part with her culture still intertwined in this culture. its pretty obvious that a bunch of guys in my class are interested in her.
Wait...you're 21 years old and you honestly believe that this could be a viable reason for men to not want to date you?!
Grow up already! My god, your friends are jerks and are probably just jealous of you because you are exotic. White dudes love foreign women. They find them to be different, mysterious, beautiful, and yes, exotic.
Your friends suck and you should get some new ones immediately. b*tches.
i think that its not because of your ethnicity. i think its maybe because those guys are just not the right one. you will find someone who like you for uo. dont worry because one day a guy will come along and like everything about you. and ethnicity wont have anything to do with it. trust
It sounds like you've been dating the wrong guys. A guy should like you for who you are, not what you look like. Get new friends, and meet different guys, because it sounds like you're in the wrong crowd.
NO!
Never think that.
You need confidence!
White and indian are not different. Just appereances and personalities.
I am indian and i am very confident that its not that.
Keep ur head help high!
your friends are jerks don't listen to them,theirs someone out their for you just like their is for everyone else,your young patience is golden don't look for him wait till he finds you whatever race he is