At 6 I cheered. I danced to shake it up at 7 and loved it. Then I heard of something called drill team and I signed up for it with a goal to be on my hs varsity dance team. A dream of mine since I was 7. On my 2 years of DT I went from falling out of a double and couldn’t do calypso to mastering 3 pirouettes and improving everything. Since June of 2017 I practiced EVERYDAY to get better and make the elite team. Didn’t make that again, but I had JV tryouts. My muscles were sore, bodies aching, and school was 2nd on my properties. It was all for nothing cause here I am an upcoming freshman and questioning if I should just give up. I’ve won no awards, never been on anything I tried out for, so can’t say I’m a varsity level dancer. The worst part is all my friends made it, and some have been dancing a shorter period than I have. I’m a late bloomer who’s been holding on to a goal, but keeps failing. The JV team was about potential and if I can’t make that, I can never make Varsity. The coaches asked me to be manager and I would love to accept it, I just don’t know how I would cope with all my friends doing something I love and not being able to be apart of that. All the times I’ve tried out everyone has said “You’ll make it”, but I never did. I feel like I let my parents, directors, varsity officers, friends, future varsity team big sis, and myself down. Everyone says just work harder we’ll I did and I’m still a failing disappointment. I’m tired of failing. Should I just give up?
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You say you want to accept the manager job - so accept it, and be a great manager! And know that it's natural in your circumstances to feel jealous of your friends, so when it happens, just let it happen for a second, treat yourself kindly, and move past it. Focus on what you do well - on being a really good team manager.
If you still want to try for the team, find out from the coach what areas you should work on. What you need to improve specifically. Then work with a dance teacher to improve those specific things. And if you get on, great. If you do not, after trying that second time, then stop. Move on. Do something else. Be the manager, for example. Or audition for the school musical, or to be on color guard for the band - something else that involves dance, but in a different way.
Yes, give up your dream. You are not a good dancer. Stop listening to everyone who says "just work harder". You did work hard for a long time but never improved. Accept the fact that dancing is not for you. Some dreams are never attainable. I wanted to play golf like Tiger Woods, but I finally admitted that I have no aptitude for sports. That's life.