He’s a really good-looking guy, and I’m starting to get jealous when he hangs out with pretty girls, and think about how he might find someone else. He’s so easy to talk to, and has a great personality…. and the sex is great. I know I should end it, because I’m obviously going to get hurt, but I don’t want to stop seeing him. I’m not completely sure he doesn’t want anything more…he told me he’s not having sex with anyone else, we’ve held hands while having sex and kisses me when we’re just talking, being friends, when it’s not going to lead to sex.
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You need to tell him your feelings are changing and you're starting to want more.
FWB often leads to this kind of situation, but the thing that really kills in these situations is dishonesty. I know it's tempting to hide your feelings and hope he starts to feel the same way you do, but more often than not that road will lead you to heartbreak.
You are assuming the kissing and other signs of affection means he may be developing feelings, but they could equally mean he just enjoys kissing you.
Talk to him now, before you fall completely, and before your heart is shattered rather than just cracked a little. If he still sees you as only FWB rather than a potential GF - which he well could - then you have to stop now, as you yourself have said, for your own sake.
"Friends with benefits" relationships can often be detrimental to the female party for just this reason. Most women equate sex with romantic relationships inherently. We are the more emotional sex. Many women think they can handle 'no-strings-attached' when they really can't; others do so based on the latent or secret hope that it will eventually turn into something more permanent.
I believe you need to sit him down and have a very serious discussion with him about the future of your relationship. Unfortunately for you 8/10 times he will state that he's not looking for anything serous right now and likes things "the way they are". I think it's time to end this before you end up seriously getting hurt. I've known girls that developed feelings for the "FWB" and even though the other person didn't reciprocate, they continued the sexual relationship anyway. Other girls have ended up getting their hearts broken when that same guy who claimed he wasn't looking for a relationship, ends the FWB friendship because he found a serious girlfriend.
Chances are this guy IS NOT looking for anything serious and it would be in your best interest to break it off. I once tried this with a guy for a few months and found myself getting jealous when he made comments about other girls; I ended it because I didn't want to wind up getting hurt and I didn't feel good about myself anymore. What you need to do is break it off.
i thought i was the only one who does that friends with benefits thing. anyways act sad all day and if you already do great, tell him you cant do this anymore because your developing feelings for him and you dont want anything bad to happen. if he likes you hell tell you he is too, if he doesnt well you cant force him to.
Sit him down and ask him if there is anything more than a sexual relationship between the two of you if you don't want to end it...
well if you develop feelings might as well make it more. if not and you cant stand to see him you should just leave. ill be your friends with benefits. :p