Chain of command won’t let me lift a no contact order?
So I put a no contact order on my husband a few months ago. Now I want it lifted. I’ve approached my chief about it on three separate occasions and I’ve talked to smoke about it twice. I told my smoke that I wanted it lifted and he told me to think it over night and give him an answer tomorrow. I told my chief the next day with the same answer. Then my smoke told me that I wasn’t showing him that I wanted the no contact order lifted. So I’m confused as to what I should do? Do I need to do more than just ask?
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They are pretty much in a holding pattern and waiting on you to file for a divorce and be rid of the situation and they also is what it sounds like. If I were you I would seriously sit down and decide if you really want that order lifted. Did you or your spouse go see mental health and get any marriage counseling before this? If not that also could be a problem and I would be talking to those people about the situation and seeking their guidance and support and see what they recommend but the military does not really want to be stuck in the middle of this. That is what you did when you put a no contact order on your husband who it sounds like is also a military member.
It appears your chief is smarter than you. Get a divorce and move on.
You went to all the work to get it put in place. Unless you can prove conditions have changed and it is no longer needed they are not going to lift it just because you say so.
If the chain of command says NO, then the answer is NO.
Speak to Base legal if you think you can get a round that NO, somehow.
No cannot get it lifted. Once it has been issued, it stays in effect until it expires.
I think you should ask "what are the steps i need to take in order to get the no contact order lifted" rather than simply going around saying you want it lifted. That way they would explain to you the steps you'd need to take so you wouldnt waste your time running around to everyone but rather approach them with everything you need.
Also a no contact order is not something that can be just easily lifted because you want it to be. I dont know your situation as to why you requested one but seeing from how you word things it comes off as you regret doing it. Its going to take steps and OTHERS to sign off on it before it can be lifted sorry to say. But it IS possible so good luck
"So I put a no contact order on my husband a few months ago" No you didn't. You requested one a few months ago and one was issued. It was issued because the approving authority found there was a reason he should not be around you. At this point, it is not up to you if the order should be lifted or not.
Perhaps you need to figure out why the abusive situation you were in before, that caused you to seek the order, is okay with you now.
The problem is once you put an order like that in it's not just up to you anymore. Someone has to actually vouch for you that they understand your situation and don't think there's a risk anymore. Obviously you are not providing enough evidence to prove that whatever risk you were trying to protect yourself from is gone. If they submitted it to the courts it might be something a judge would even have to review. You obviously need to ask some questions to really understand what is in place and how it can be fixed.