My partner is Vaishnava. I'm an agnostic person. I love him. And he loves me. But he doesn't like the fact that I don't believe in God the way he does. He wants me to be like him and become a believer. I have sensed his disappointment in me. I'm not vegetarian but he is. He doesn't wanna accept food from me.
I think it would be easier for him if I became a believer too. I won't be treated like an untouchable anymore. When we kiss, he doesn't like to touch my tongue...
Anyway, I'm in a dilemma. If I compromise and started believing in God, that would be like totally changing myself and losing my ethics and becoming this false self of a person.
On the other hand, if I don't do it and don't tell him how much I don't want to change myself, I think I'd hurt him and our relationship might not be the same again. He might even stop loving me.
Help me out friends...
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Your relationship really doesn't have much of a chance. Your values are just too different and if you try to change, you will come to resent him. You don't say how old you are or how long you have been seeing each other. While some religious differences can work, yours seem to be more than just a little bit of differences. There are some very fundamental differences here. I'd be very wary of making the kinds of changes you've suggested here. I think it might be good for the two of you to take a break, date others who share your values more closely and see where things are in several months from now.
Good luck.
Whats Ironic is that the true God has already discussed this matter in the bible.
Notice what this scripture says.
2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship do righteousness and lawlessness have? Or what sharing does light have with darknes
Your experiencing that right now, you can have fellowship because you too are so different. now you find yourself in this situation.
I dont know much about you BF faith, but I can assure you of this much. You will have this as an ongoing issue in your relationship.
I myself am a man of faith. I find the truth of the bible helpful in answering questions and helping me to be the best person that I can be.
It depends on the people involved. However, the picture you paint isn't one of someone who can work past their beliefs.
yes
but you two will have to understand each other's differences