The guy I was having casual sex with once a week for four month but know each other for years .
We were having conversations and had fun times.I just wanted something casual but fell for him.
For the past month he became distant and ignored me
I confronted and texted whats the deal, told him that I like him and asked him on a date, and he confessed that he’s back with his ex .
He said he’s sorry but he can’t help it as he still has feelings for her. (He left her a few times before due to her personality )
And then he started to cry about how he’s unhappy right now as he’s anxious about all this and not even enjoying life (trying to seem miserable?) that he doesn’t know what’s gonna happen with her, he thinks it’s a mistake , telling me that he’s not a bad person asking not to be mad with him .
I asked him why you didn’t tell me and he said he wasn’t sure yet about but he would tell me .bs.
I said I’m not angry and I understand and told him I fell in love with him and even said I can give him more than her (Yes, stupid but it was in a moment ) He said please try to forget me but said don’t disappear .
I don’t get why he just didn’t tell me for weeks.
The last time we met was 3 weeks ago before all this convo, he was already distancing but took me to a party introduced to everyone, I kissed him in public acting affectionate, now I realize that he was already back with her when we were at the party! Why did he even take me there. I feel I made a complete fool of myself.
Answers & Comments
You'll have to point out the part where he lied because if you'd both agreed that the situation was "casual" that by definition means no deep emotions are to be involved. Sounds like you're the one who changed the rules in the middle of the game. This is called a rebound and so long as he never promised to stay with you forever he's done nothing wrong. Although he should have been more honest about reconciling with his ex instead of just becoming "distant".
Men don't like it when women get upset or angry. And so he avoided telling you because it WOULD upset you.
Do not have casual sex with guys ... women fall in love really easily if they are having sex with a guy. And a guy who is not interested in having a relationship with you will not become interested just because you give him your body. You are asking for misery.
Sure you made a fool of yourself. So what? We all do, from time to time. No one is perfect, but the more we expect ourselves to be perfect, and the more we think our mistakes make us a bad person, the more unhappy we will be.
Get back at him by having sex with as many Mexican guys as you can handle. Latinos have big rods, so have fun.
You already know, answered your own question. "I was having casual sex"
You were in a casual relationship, not his fault that you fell for him and wanted it to be more. Sorry, but in this situation, it sucks, but no one really did anything wrong. He feels bad, you feel hurt, no winners.
the Majority of men want what they can get. Simple as that.
If you give it, they will take it as long as they can, then when bored will look for another.
Just open your legs and have fun
Marriage and serious relationship will give you stress and you only have sex with one person so live life to the fullest and have lot of sex with all types of guys from different nationalities