The guy Im seeing knows I love him and that I want to be with him more than anything and he constantly hurts me by either pushing me against walls, grabbing my arms as hard as he can leaving bruises, tells me im his bit*h, hits me and he verbally and emotionally abuses me. He breaks up with me all the time and when I beg him not to leave he laughs and tells me he has me right where he wants me and that I'm so cute when I beg him not to leave me and so he said he loves knowing how much control he has since he knows how badly I want him. Whenever I tell him I love him he never says it back, he just says "I know you do". He makes me cry all day every day but for some reason I like it. I am so good to him. I make him breakfast, lunch and dinner, we have sex everyday and I do whatever he tells me to and he doesn't appreciate any of it. Even though he's mean I think he is so sexy and I know he treats me so badly but for some reason it just makes me want him even more. I wish he treated me better but my question is..if he knows he is hurting me WHY does he continue to do it and why doesn't he care or feel bad? :(
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I think you should ask why you enjoy being abused? If you didn't allow it he wouldn't do it. You are as sick as he is for allowing this to happen. When you have children are you going to allow this sick arz to abuse them also? Get some help you need it seriously.
Why does he continue to do it and why doesn't he feel bad about it? Because you allow him to do it and because he doesn't have to feel bad. He knows you won't leave him and he knows he can control you. He gets to be a jerk and treat you like crap and you will always be to blame. When things go wrong that you had absolutely no control over you will always be responsible for it. He has a punching bag, a door mat and a silly little girl all wrapped up in one package. He likes your neediness because it makes him feel entitled.
If you were to threaten to leave him or call the police, he wouldn't be so unashamed all the time. He would cry and beg your forgiveness. But, he won't change. He will do it again and again until you really do leave, for good. Then, he will move on and abuse his next girlfriend.
What you need to do is find someone new. Leave him, recover from the loss and then move on. But, because you like the way he treats you, you will ignore what everyone here says and keep dealing with him and his crap. Then one day, when your eyes are swollen shut, your arm is broken and you cant move from the pain, you will decide that this is the last time you will end up in the hospital because of his abuse. But by then it will be too late and he will do something far worse than break a few bones.
This is a pattern. This man needs help. He hurts you and that means he needs counseling in a bad way, but you don't care, you just want him more.
It's not your fault that he is abusive. It is never your fault. Even 5 years from now it won't be your fault that he beat you again and now you really do want to leave. But, you certainly could have saved yourself, any children you guys have by then and all the agencies assisting you the aggravation if you had just left him sooner.
The MUCH more serious question is: WHY DO YOU ALLOW THIS TO HAPPEN?
STOP SEEING HIM NOW!!! If he threatens you, call the police. Get a lawyer, and file the paperwork to keep him away form you.
You THINK you "love" him, but in fact you are too weak-willed to leave him, because even an abusive boyfriend is better than no boyfriend -- right?.
THAT IS SO F---ING STUPID!
Take your clothes and GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. There are shelters for abused women in almost all cities. FIND ONE (try asking at a church). Go there and STAY.
While you are there SEEK COUNSELING. YOU are the problem here, because YOU think you are in love. No SANE person would put up with being abused. SEEK COUNSELING to find out why you think so poorly about yourself, and learn that YOU ARE IN CONTROL of this situation, and YOU NEED TO LEAVE.
He thinks that you will just accept it because you are desperate to be with him, that is not how a relationship is made, it is made on mutual respect and care for one another and he does not care about you, walk out on him as soon as possible, don't marry him or even live with him or hang out with him, walk out and cut him out of your life, get over how sexy he is and how much you want him, just leave him and don't go back, block him on facebook and on your phone, find a new address, use new shops and restaurants, if you have no other attachments in that town then hit the road and find a new town and make a new and better life for yourself, although it is hard to believe you will find another person who is better suited to you and will respect you for who you are, if you give in to your urges and stay with this current guy however when you have the chance to leave NOW then you deserve what you get.
He has already told you why, he like the control and power he has over you!
My advice: Leave his ungrateful, douche bag, *** as soon as possible! Get out! Get away, FAR AWAY! and don't look back! Find a man that deserves you and that you deserve! No one and I mean NO ONE deserves to be treated like that. You don't like it, he makes you cry all day, everyday! Seriously go to a friend's house and stay there, don't talk to this man. Don't answer your phone when he calls or the door when he visits! HE IS NOT WORTH IT! move on!!! You don't love him, he definitely doesn't love you! Get out, get out before it's too late... Just imagine what would happen if you had kids with this man! They could get the same treatment, and no mother wants to see her kids go through that and kids want to see their mother go through it either! Find a healthy relationship that will be good for you!
Leave him, that's not love, that's ABUSE! Talk to someone close to you and get help
Take my advice! Next time he leaves a bruise or hurts you in any way, call the police and charge him with domestic violence and get a restraining order!
I'm sorry, you don't deserve that, find someone better or be independant and focus on you!
Here's the real point: it's not why he does what he does... it's why YOU do what YOU do. Please seek personal counseling immediately. Your life depends on it.
I think you are confused on some basic facts. A Fiance is someone who has formally asked for your hand in marriage, you have accepted, and a wedding date is set. The relatives are all on board and wedding plans are in motion.
So.... since it seems about a 100% chance that isn't going on... thank your lucky stars! You are NOT engaged and this mean man you act like a slave towards is NOT your "fiance"!
Why should he care and feel bad about the way he treats you when you don't? Go speak to your school counselor or a professional therapist. You've got some inside issues to work out, kiddo.
I think. R sick too, to enjoy this abuse. Get professional help. This no love situation... Be confident that others may be better than him. Leave im now
He's a psychopath, and you have nothing to gain by staying with him. The more time you try to invest in your relationship, the more he will hurt you. Take it from the daughter of someone who was abused. Get. Out. ASAP.
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