My Fiancé is a cop and today two cops were gunned down around 2am. And they are still searching for these two idiots and evil women/Man. And so i have been a total Wreck today and just extremely Edgy with him out there helping searching for these two and so scared about losing him as well. But his parents don't seem to give a crap and act like i am blowing this into WW2 or something i do not understand there attitude to this. Why are they being like this/ What could i do to take My mind off of this?
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I would guess they do not have the emotional attachment to your Fiancé as you do for one. Second, if they were completely distraught and upset, it would not help you. They are probably doing their best to be calm which should be of some help to you. In addition, my wife had concerns but grew to know that I will always to my best. The entire world is not corrupt and looking to kill police officers. Try to talk to your husband about your concerns, hopefully he will discuss with you what he does on a daily basis on patrol. Yes, I understand you are concerned but being upset will not help you. Talk to him
something you need to know is when someone joins the police force or the armed forces, they are committed to their jobs. Family and friends know and understand there is a chance they may lose their loved one/s while on duty. They consider this an honorable job and have mentally/emotionally prepared themselves should this ever happen. It is not weak to be concerned or cry about it but you should know you are dealing with a very emotionally strong group of people. They have been trained to stay in control during the hardest of times. It takes a certain mentality to be part of their lives. If you're not up to dealing with this on an ongoing basis you may want to reconsider your choice of partner before your wedding day. No right or wrong way here. Just a choice you have to make.
I'm sure they love him, but they react to his occupation differently then you do.
When a family member becomes a cop, they understand there are a lot of "what ifs" with the job. He has been trained and you need to understand that no matter how much you get frustrated over their reaction or get upset about his job things will not change. This is the life he decided to live and I'm assuming if you are going to marry him you respect that and accept he works in a tough line of work.
I hope they find the two that killed those cops. My condelences to their friends and family.
They have been w/him a lot longer then U have. They have dealt w/these situations before! And 4 some1 2 sit around and simply worry themselves into anemia over something that MIGHT happen is ludicrous! Now that doesn't mean that they don't worry. It simply means that they refuse to give into the worry and let it consume their lives! They worry and are concerned in their own ways! Don't think that 4 1 sec they don't worry about their son..because then you would b wrong!
Go out and do something that you enjoy. Go for a walk. Look @ the flowers. Go get the groceries. Call a friend and meet for coffee. DO SOMETHING! You sitting there worrying yourself to death does NO1 any good!
Police are in the most danger from the unknown, not known fugitives. Your fiance is probably more safe working in a team looking for known bad guys than dealing with your average crazy. His parents probably have already dealt with the feelings you are having. Often we forget how we reacted to similar circumstances. If his dad is a cop, then they are nonchalant because they getting callous to it was a necessity of life. I'm sure you will worry greatly for him over the years, but you will find ways to cope.
My dad has been a cop for 30 years. It's not that we don't care every time he goes out the door, but you can't worry about what you can't control. It's not productive and it wastes time. My dad loves his job or he wouldn't have been doing it for 30 years now. As a family we've learned to accept it and the hazards that come with it and hope that he never has to be put in a compromising situation.
Wow, the only things that come to mind are 1) They aren't close to him and really don't care or 2) They can't stand to constantly worry about this sometimes dangerous job so choose to act nonchalant.
Probably because they accepted his life choice and refuse to let news like this get to them. They are probably scared too..just don't want to make a big deal out of it.
They are used to it and cannot create every time he goes out to work, you had better get used to it. The last thing he needs is you going off on one every time he's at work.
Older folks just seem to know how to chill out. Let's face it, being edgy and worried sick only affects one person.