After ending a 3 year relationship, this other girl and I dated for a week after hanging out a few times. We hit it off so well and I had such high expectations for us. Anyway…I think I scared her off. Eventually – things went south and she decided we should just be friends…which didn’t go over too well either.
Anyway, since then – I’ve been trying SO hard to pick myself up and feel better. During the day, I am usually fine. I have things to keep me busy. I go to school full time, and from the moment I wake up until anywhere between 7 and 9 PM I can keep busy.
But when 9, 10, or 11 PM rolls around – I start feeling depressed. I’m alone in my apartment, no one is around…and these failed relationships consume my thoughts! I hate feeling like this – and I’d love to be able to go to bed happy again.
Will this just get better with time? Do I need to find a woman? What, if anything, can I do?
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Go see a doctor...sounds like depression. You don't have to feel like you do.
It will get better. When I broke up with my boyfriend in April of this year for months I could not sleep. It's now November and thank God I am sleeping now. It's normal to think about the failed relationships but what you need to do is use this time........to get to know you, try to dissect your past relationships and find out why they didn't work out.
Now for the loneliness, (I live alone too) what I have done is draw closer to my family for the love and support. You need to draw closer to people in your life who will love you unconditionally.
Don't be in any hurry to go out there and find a woman per se. Take a little time to reflect so that whenever the next person comes along you will be ready. All the best.
Don't take any anti-depressants, it seems to me that you are just lonely not depressed. Call some guy friends so you can hang out at night, but stop going out with the intention of meeting someone new. Take some time off from relationships for now and just clear your mind. If love knocks on your door let it in but take it slowly. Good Luck.
it w/ get better in time i don't think trying to hurry and find another woman is the answer i totally relate anything that bothers a person always seems worse at night try keeping your mind busy during that time read a book or something and when it gets better and you find the right one take it easy and don't feel so pressured to make it work it w/ naturally best wishes
We tend to feel most vulnerable at night, especially when there is nothing to distract us. It's hard to end a relationship that has lasted so long, and harder to get into a new one. I think you need some time to do your own things, your own interests. You'll meet someone when you're ready and you'll find happiness again.
usually we have such feeling at night when there is darkness and silence all over there,try to be strong and involve your mind in some other activities watch t.v ,do some creative work
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