Not to be a smartaass, truly - I do get what you are saying. But the only things that ever made me stronger were social interaction, especially love, and going to the gym.
Other things, like what is meant by the saying that whatever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger, don't make me stronger. They weaken and sicken me and fill me with despair. I think that saying is one of those "inspirational quotes" that sound good, but don't really work. At least not for me.
You have heard me talk about my sons. Which I had 3. But the oldest who died after a few short weeks on this earth. It is what changed my life for the worst. That is when every thing in this world turned up side down. My ex was still in the hospital and we did not know if she was going to make it or not. And I had to bury my son without here being there at the grave side with. I can still feel the coldness of his casket in my arms as I laid him in the grave.
I spent two weeks of every night going to his grave, and drinking a bottle of whiskey and cursing God with all my might. Even thought we had to more lovely sons after "David" died, I could never handle his death, and that is what led to our separation and then divorce.
But we have all ways stayed good friends through out life. And my ex is still a friend.
I have dealt with many things in my life, but that is the one that is always carried deep in my heart.
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10 days shy of my 14th birthday I witnessed part
of the beating my father gave my mother which
killed her.
The Police came to our home in the wee hours of the
morning and escorted me an my 5 siblings to a friends
home.
I was questioned by the police as a witness.
The Priest came in to tell me my mother was gone.
I had to tell my siblings this horrible news.
We never went back to our home.
We were sent to live with relatives we did not know
and our Father went to Prison...
and
At 26 my husband beat me, tried to kill me and abducted
our 31/2 year old daughter. I had to stay in a positive frame
of mind so when I found her I would be the mother she
needed instead of a basket case. This was one of the
hardest things I have ever endured.
It took me 21 years and 4 months to find her...
Not to be a smartaass, truly - I do get what you are saying. But the only things that ever made me stronger were social interaction, especially love, and going to the gym.
Other things, like what is meant by the saying that whatever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger, don't make me stronger. They weaken and sicken me and fill me with despair. I think that saying is one of those "inspirational quotes" that sound good, but don't really work. At least not for me.
Time is good teacher.
You have heard me talk about my sons. Which I had 3. But the oldest who died after a few short weeks on this earth. It is what changed my life for the worst. That is when every thing in this world turned up side down. My ex was still in the hospital and we did not know if she was going to make it or not. And I had to bury my son without here being there at the grave side with. I can still feel the coldness of his casket in my arms as I laid him in the grave.
I spent two weeks of every night going to his grave, and drinking a bottle of whiskey and cursing God with all my might. Even thought we had to more lovely sons after "David" died, I could never handle his death, and that is what led to our separation and then divorce.
But we have all ways stayed good friends through out life. And my ex is still a friend.
I have dealt with many things in my life, but that is the one that is always carried deep in my heart.
take care
dave
Life
Being born into an highly dysfunctional family that gave me constant reoccuring trauma over a course of 17 years.
If you were to be dropped into the middle of the ocean during the perfect storm, you'd better learn how to swim or breath under water.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
Except getting your limbs cut off, unless you're the knight from Monty Python.
Yeah, I truly believe that what doesn't kill me makes me stronger. Not going to the gym didn't kill me and it has made me stronger.
I was extremely ill for a long time when I was younger. Made me tough.