When we first started dating, he would tell me all these beautiful things and make me laugh and smile all the time. He never failed to make me smile. He would get me flowers and write me letters that would melt my heart. We have been together for 4 years now and we had a baby together a year ago. He works and everything and I'm mostly at home taking care of the baby and finishing up with online classes, cook and clean. When he gets home I sometimes get mad because he comes home late and we just argue. Ever since I had birth, I started to feel less loved and wanted. Now he doesn't make me feel special at all. I'm constantly mad and sad because I'm frustrated. I love him and I want us to be happy but every time I talk to him about this he always says that I want that "high school puppy love" and I think that we need to make each other feel special in every way possible. When we go out or whatever, I always see him looking at other women. and it bothers me because I feel disrespected. I don't do that because he is mine and I have eyes for him only. I don't know, maybe I'm old fashioned, but I just feel like a man should wok and still make time for the wife and kids. He's always tired and it's gettin to the point where we barely even have sex. I don't know what to do, I feel ugly, unwanted, unloved, uncared for. What should I do? Leave him? Talk to him again until he gets it? Or give him a taste of his own medicine?
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You two have added a lot of permanency to this relationship by having a child together. I don't think you should leave him over this - but things do have to change. He certainly has to learn that he can't be ogling other women while the two of you are out someplace. But just remember, you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Perhaps try to do some nice things for him and some things to spice up your relationship. Give him reason to be looking at you instead of other women when you're out. Add some spontaneity to your sex life and let him know, like you said here that you only have eyes for him. If none of that works - you could always curtail some of the things you do for him until he discovers their real worth.
It's hard to keep a relationship thriving. Often when we feel like we're in a rut at work etc. . . we also end up in a rut with our loved ones. There are so many things in this world to split two people apart, the things that keep them together always have to be stronger.
Go to your obstetrician and discuss medications for postpartum depression.