There is a girl I know, we hang out in our friendship group. Every time we meet we flirt. She is always overjoyed to see me. We eye each other up, she laughs at my terrible jokes and always wants to dance with me when music is on. I know she likes me, I can feel the pull between us. Every time I have felt this with another girl we have made out or dated. I really like her too and everything seems perfect for us meeting alone and making out. But she pulls away every time I make a move. I try to message her but she goes shy. She cancels dates. I know she hasn't had a proper boyfriend before as she said so. I don't even know if she has kissed a guy before. She seems really scared of letting go of her girlhood. All my previous girlfriends were very experienced so I have never had to deal with a girl like this. I don't want to hurt her. How can I put her at her ease and convince her? It is awful because valentines is coming up and I really want to go out with her this weekend.
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Dating within an established friend group is much like dating someone you work with in that when the relationship ends it usually means one party has to leave the friend group (as they'd have to leave their job if they dated a coworker). So there's a lot more to consider than just "do I like this guy?". She's having to factor in "do I like this guy well enough to lose all my friends over it?".
You have to meet her on her terms. You have been meeting her only on yours. Like have you met her parents and have they had a look at you? Do you have the credentials to pass their requirements? Do you have a future for yourself? Why should she waste herself on you?