So my boyfriend and I are in college have been dating for almost 11 months. We never fight we trust each other but since we got back from summer the past few weeks have been weird. He talked to me about it told me he thought something was off and that he wanted to change things so I was like okay so we’ve been working on showing each other we care. Well, I talked to his bestfriend who I don’t know is telling the truth or not but he said originally he was going to break up with me because he didn’t think I loved him anymore. So that scared me and me and my boyfriend talked and he said he wanted to still try things with us. Then I talked to his bestfriend again and he said he doesn’t get the vibe that my bf still likes me it kinda just seems like he wants to have fun in college and still have me as a backup plan. He said said that while we were together he almost cheated on me with his friend from last year. I know about her a little bit I know he snapchats her all day everyday. I never really had a problem with her until he said that and now I don’t know if its true. I don’t want to believe it but I also don’t know because shes very pretty and I just have a feeling if he wasn’t with me he would try and get with her.
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I think you should break up with your boyfriend because he's too gutless to "have fun in college" if that's what he actually wants.
First of all, stop talking to the friend, that is the worst thing you can do, you never know his real agenda, never.
You got an issue with your boyfriend, especially in a long distance type relationship, then it is between the two of you, no one else. That is the one you sit down with and chat about the issues. You both apparently have some sort of issue, doubts. You sit, discuses them, come up with a plan to address them, see where it goes. 11 months, the honeymoon is over, this is when the actual work of maintaining a reltionship comes in, it is not always love will conquer all, love needs help, work, commitment.
Stop talking to his friend, for starters. No one likes their girlfriend/boyfriend going behind their backs to find out about their relationship. In any case, men don't talk about relationships the way women do, so it's unlikely his friend really knows anything.
What exactly is your question?
I'd break up with you for talking to someone else about OUR relationship. The three of you are gossiping like children. Nothing good is going to come of this, well, except for your bf who wants to break up with you but doesn't have the balls to tell you himself. It's time to have "the talk".
Next time you are in a relationship, learn to keep private what is private. And learn how to have direct and honest communication with the person you're in a relationship with. There are only TWO people in a relationship and one of them isn't his best friend. Got it?
His friend is a f*cking rat. That’s the main problem I see in this situation. Can’t be trusted
you don't want to feel that way you better talk to him now and clear any doubts or questions that you might have, do it now or the relationship will be going down quick
As things have changed over the summer and you feel insecure and are getting all sorts of indications that he is moving on, you should be realistic. No 11 month relationship during college should cause you this much stress.
I think you know that bf is losing interest and you are trying to hang on to him. Its not worth your effort.
There are many men in college, you are young and you should be enjoying school and your social life.
Time for you and bf to break up so you both can find a happier and more secure relationship.