My girlfriend and I have been together almost a year. I like to talk things out...her not so much. She admits she has the worst PMS. Out of nowhere she doesn't want to be talked to, touched, she gets snappy. Then after its over she apologizes, says she's always taken it out on the people she's closest too. We don't fight often, but when we do it lasts about 3 days and she's back to the sweetest girl in the world.
I admit I have not been a good bf to past girls, but I've learned a lot, changed my ways. I know this girls the one. So I can honestly say I do nothing but treat her like a queen. Flowers randomly, never ask her to pay, dishes, laundry, clean, yardwork, clean her car etc. I tell her every morning what she means to me, how beautiful she is, and why I love her.
She has self concious issues like most women. I try to help her by complimenting her coming on to her spontaneously.
We have a good sex life. Lately it's weird. She complains I never start it, then when I try I get pushed away. So I snuggle her like she asks. Now it's I haven't shaved my legs, haven't showered today. Last night she jerked me off during a movie for 30 minutes. Needless to say I thought the coast was clear. Nope when I came onto her I'm really tired. So I asked her why she does that to just push me away? She got all upset said fine we just won't do it anymore. It's like rocket science now. I quit trying bc it's like red light green light, but always on yellow. So ya she always starts it. No one likes rejection.
I don't want this to sound like its all about sex, it's not we make love. Just giving examples. Do you think she has some mental issues like bipolar or depression? I wish someone would treat me like I treat her, she can she has it in her, it's just on off, but she insists she wants to marry me too.
I was thinking of talking to her mom or sis about if there is something I should know or not? Good idea or not?
Does it sound like she has mental issues?
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I do not think she has mental issues, she's just a woman. There are herbal remedies she can try to help with the PMS, or maybe go on the pill without breaks? That's helped me a lot. Maybe you should try to back off about sex and take her for a nice dinner and give her flowers?
Wow, you have a lot of drama going on. Can't say for sure if she has some mental issues, but how she is treating you and reacting is not something that one would find in a healthy relationship.
IMHO, you should try sitting down with her and confess your love to her and explain to her how you appreciated the kind things she does. You also need to get her to open up to what is going on in that brain of hers as how she perceives your relationship. The only way you can do that is with communication face to face. So schedule a time and neutral ground and begin a conversation. Btw, if you are in a public place she is more apt to talk with a civil tongue and you will gain useful information.
Ask open ended questions, to get her to talk. If you ask questions that can be answered with yes and no, that is exactly what you will get from her. Don't accuse her of anything, just sit and explore your relationship with her. If my the end you are where you began with no more information ask to why she does what she does or what she is trying to get out of your relationship then I think you have "bigger fish to fry" as they say.
Good luck
Communication is the answer.
I think you are being too nice and she is just being herself. Now you didnt mention if she calls you names too when she gets angry or upset. If so, then clearly there is no respect. Try to talk to her and analyze her response. Think hard and before taking a further step, you should be 100% satisifed and happy that you are making the right decision.
Most likely depression or some other issues are there but communication is the key.