I've have been with my fiancé for some time now and during this time he's talked about his father so much. It kills me seeing my fiancé like that he might not show it but I see right through him. It's been years since he's seen his father. I believe since high school and now he's a grown man at age 24. I've talked to his mom about it and she agrees it kills her too but most of all it kills her how his father didn't have the guts to look for his son all these years. I know it sounds really messed up and it is I still can't believe a father or even a mother wouldnt try to contact their child for such a long time. The man is married and has 3 kids with her. I'm really afraid that they don't know anything about my fiancé and not knowing that's he's their older brother. From what I've talked to my mother in law she thinks it could be his wife holding him back from getting back to his son. If it was that problem its just so sad. I have no words for that. She suggested maybe writing a letter to his wife through Facebook to see what she responds back or if she even responds back. But after talking more she just said to wait it out to see if his dad will ever show up. I honestly can't don't know if I could wait I'm suffering knowing my fiance always wanting the father & son bonding. And I know it won't be to that point because we all have our own separate lives now. But I just want to see him happy that he at least saw and talked to his father. I need to do this for him because I what if his father doesn't want to contact him and I just dont want my fiancé getting hurt if we did this together. I found out where his father works and im just debating who to write a letter to. His wife or my fiancé's father. And ontop of it all I'm pregnant he will be a first time grandfather. And my fiancé is considering of changing his last name before we get married. And I know for a fact he wants to see or know about his father before his decision. Please help me on what to do. And what should I say?