Last Friday night, my fiancé and I went to meet up with my best friend's friends house. My best friend and his friend (a girl I went to school with and was sort of friends with) are best friends as well.
Well the girl is kind of flirtatious. No big deal because while she's doing it, she's laughing like its a joke and I know it's a joke. However, this time it was a little excessive. As my fiancé and I were leaving, I hugged her and started towards my fiance's truck. Thinking he was following. I turned to say something to him over my shoulder, and him and the girl were hugging. Still. But yet, her upper torso was completely pressed against his, and she was kind of rubbing all over him. He was just standing there with his arm around her still giving her a hug. And THEN I saw her saying something in his ear.
When he got in the truck, I asked him what that was all about and he argued that it was all a joke and nothing happened and he didn't remember what she said. Sunday night, he finally came up to me and wanted to talk. He told me that she asked him if I had to work in the morning and he said yes. Then she said that she was going to come visit him while I was at work. He said she never touched his private area but she did grab his behind and rub him up and down.
I was upset with him because I felt like a joke shouldn't have gone that far and he allowed it to. I told my best friend about who agreed that it was inappropriate but said that she was just joking and would never REALLY come on to my fiancé. My fiancé says he doesn't think she was just playing around. And I don't either. But I'm stuck with how in the world did my fiancé think it was ok to joke like that at the time which leads me to believe thats wht gave her signals. And not to mention, if that is what happens in front of my face, then what happens behind my back. It's like I told him, she was in the wrong, but he sure wasn't fighting it.
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If what you have stated here is all true, then I feel that you are right, no doubt. This is no kidding business. If this happens once again, tell them that you don't like it, right there. He's not just a silly date, he's your fiance, and nobody has such rights over him than you. Make this clear to them. Take care, dear.
Tell your fiancé that you are really upset by it and that you don't take it as a joke when it goes that far, say that he should have told you that she wanted to come over.
In my opinion this is wrong and too far, but your fiancé proposed to you and obviously loves you to do that so don't get too upset over it, just have a speak to him about it, and maybe mention it to your friend.
Good luck.
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You bet you have the right to be upset...And you keep say she more than he it was 50/50 both are to blame
Yeah be upset
You have every right! She shouldn't be doing stuff like that with your fiancee