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you should understand that men and women are different. some things are important to women but not men. the same thing happen to men, some things are very important to men, but not to women. women and men have different interest.

men usually dont really pay attention to stuff like birthday, birthday present etc etc. a man sometimes doesnt even remember that today is his birthday. so, i guess you shouldnt be mad at that kind of thing. your husband has a different way to show that he loves you. maybe even better than just giving a birthday present. dont ruin anything big for anything small like that. i dont mean to say that it's not important. i just want to say that you have lots of way to tell him that birthday present is important to you, better than being mad at him.

i can give you example. to men, sports are like....you know.....shopping to you. it's hard to explain this because it's just natural thing.

some things are just better off the way they are.

Okay first of all being married is not like living at home with mom and dad when it comes to your birthday.

You said he came home and made you dinner reservations. Then you refused at first to go. But you still ended up going out but not to the restaurant of your choice is that right?

He also asked you what you wanted as a gift? Okay this may not be the most romantic thing but he did ask. And maybe just maybe he really wanted you to pick out what you wanted so that he didn't give you something that you thought sucked?

Alot of Husbands do this. Some Men have a tendency to always get some of the awfullest gifts.

Maybe in the past he gave you a gift that he thought you would really like and you in return didn't really like what he gave you. And maybe he could see that written all over your face. And he didn't want to disappoint you again with a crappy gift.

He wanted to be sure that what he bought you was what you really wanted!!!

You shouldn't be disappointed at all. He took you for dinner and even offered to buy you what you wanted!!!!!

How is he not thinking of you???? Not thinking of you would have meant that he wouldn't have made dinner reservations at all or even offered to buy you a gift!! He wouldn't have did squat for you.

You should be thankful that he did what he did for you and offered what he offered. Not everyone gets this on their birthday.

I don't always get dinner out and a gift for my birthday. Some years I just get a card. And it means the world to me. Money doesn't grow on trees and some years it is hard to buy things.

And as long as my hubby gives me a card I know that he loves and cares about me. And I know he didn't forget even if he couldn't afford a fancey dinner out or some expensive gift. It is suppose to be the thought that counts not the gift!!

It sounds like to me that you need to grow up a little more and quit acting like a child. You are being shelfish. You are an adult now and married and birthdays aren't the same as when you were a child.

Time changes everything. He may have showered you at first because he could afford to. Now you 2 are married and you have made more debts to be paid. And money is a little more different now then then.

He loves you and he has proved that over and over again to you. He married you. Your love for him shouldn't be about gifts! It should be about what is in your heart. If he made you a gift out of love that wasn't fancy or pricey and that was all he gave you for your birthday would you be happy with that?

Hey....he tried to make dinner reservations for you!! what, because he did it in front of you, the evening would have been less special?

Maybe with all the "showering" with gifts before you were married, he thinks you already have everything you want....and that's why he asked you what you wanted for your birthday.

Some men don't plan things out...that's one area where men and women are WAY different.

I would wait to tell him of your disappointment, until you are done being angry.

It could be worse! At least he is not hitting you or cheating on you!

Men lose 50 percent of their brain cells after marriage.

Make sure you express your anger and that not getting some thing for your birthday is unacceptable-in the future you'll learn to remind a few weeks in advance.

If you expect him to make reservations before your birthday, not in front of you, you're in some major disappointment.

Just be grateful he's a great guy the other 364 days a year.

Welcome to marriage.

Yes, you need to talk to him and explain what you're feeling. Men aren't mindreaders, and he might not understand why you're upset. People have different "love languages." His might not be gift-giving--mine certainly isn't, but my sister's is. This means that I have to make a conscious effort to get her a gift, because while it doesn't mean much to me, it means the world to her. Your husband was planning to take you out to dinner, so it's not like he was completely ignoring the fact that it was your birthday.

And I know it's hard, but you should probably apologize to your husband for telling him you didn't want to go out with him. It seems to me that he was trying to do something special for your birthday, but you refused his "gift" because it wasn't what you wanted. (I know, I know, it wasnt' a "real" gift, but he was giving you the gift of a lovely night out and quality time.)

Give yourself time to calm down, apologize, and talk about different love languages. There are lots of books on the differences between men and women--and some of them are truly enlightening. I'm sure that being newlyweds, you are both still adjusting to married life and that can be stressful. I hope you are able to work this conflict out, and hopefully, you'll be able to laugh about this story on your 50th wedding anniversary. :)

Oh, and happy birthday. :)

What a complicated difficulty. You sound like a saint for putting up with this! How does your husband cope with present-giving for birthdays or Christmas? Does he provide you funds, or present enjoying cards, and assume you to opt for your very own present? If he selects a recent, is it something you actual like (no remember if or not you prefer to particular your dislike of the present to him is yet another remember, merely think of of in case you actual like it)? in the adventure that your husband is offering you with funds or present enjoying cards, he's attempting to deliver out a sign. He feels that he won't p.c.. out the "desirable" present, and could quite know which you acquire merely what you needed. If he's that style of individual, he might desire to assume you to experience the comparable way, even yet it sounds which you're greater of the style who enjoys procuring the marvel present, hoping that the guy would be touched by ability of what you have completed (truthfully not something incorrect with this, I classify myself as this style, as properly!). It sounds as in case you does not nevertheless be interior the courting if there have been not something there. So i could attempt to maintain engaged on it!

well if he didn't get you something and this is the first time then he is mad at you for something. my ex wife reacted the same way when i didn't get her nothing but that was because she never got me no brithday presents either, no christmas or anything really. she bought her boyfriend present though (which is why she is my ex) if he asked you what you wanted on your birthday and you didn't answer and when you told him you dont want to go out to eat what do you expect from him?

Marriage is a llife-long commitment. Being mad will only make this non-issue into an issue. You don't want that surely so learn to give and take.Love is not about birthdays, anniversaries etc...In time I hope you'll discover.Regards, Pat.

Since this is not typical behavior for him, I would guess that he must be mad at you for some reason and this is his way of letting you know. Have you been a pain in the rear end since you got married? Is there some incident you can think of or some habit you have formed (like nagging or whining) that would lead him to be unhappy with you?

my wife ignores my birthday every year and will even leave town to be some where else for my bday and yes after eight years it still bothers me, yes tell him how you feel, it may not change anything but still let your feelings about it be known my wife did not act like this before we were married either, isn't strange how people change after the wedding