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Dont waste your money on unnecessary stuff. You said it yourself, every dollar counts, so why waste money? At the beginning people don’t really know how much everything will cost so they make the mistake of wasting money on save dates, magnets, engagement photo shoots and other stupid stuff, and when it comes time to pay deposits for the venue, caterer, musicians, photographer, cake, dj, invitations, attire etc.etc.etc. they don’t have the money and they are forced to downscale or do without important stuff.

Just ask the people a year ahead at the most and leave it at that. If your wedding is over a year from now, is not necessary to ask anyone yet. No need for boxes, nobody needs boxes. You will have plenty of opportunities to spend money on your bridesmaids when you pay for their dinner at the rehearsal, give them the bridal party gifts, pay fo their make up and hair to be done, others even pay for the dresses. Keep your purse tight for now, you will need to use your money wisely.

I can't see the sense in asking them twice.

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Ask them first. You also mentioned budget concerns...drop the box(its an extra expense). The box is not required, but if it willl bring you joy in your wedding planning...ah, shucks...go ahead and make it AFTER u ask them. Best wishes of happiness and remember to enjoy the experience! Its a happy time...keep thatt in mind the whole time.

What is a "bridesmaid's invitation box"? I've never heard of such a thing, nor do I know anyone who has ever received one. Is that some kind of expensive, unnecessary "gift"? If you want your girls to be your bridesmaids, them ask them, face to face - but only AFTER you have set a date and decided where the wedding is going to be held.

Just ask them and skip the boxes altogether.

The boxes put unneeded pressure on them.

And make sure you have a date set and venue booked before you ask them. No one wants to be asked for some theorhetical date that may or may not happen in the next year.

The honor of being your attendant should be something you ask each friend individually- either in person, or at least in a phone call if they aren't local. Never just a phone call if they are local- go out to lunch with each one separately.

Do it later, if you just became engaged. There are lots of other things to work out, and things happen along the way. You could change your mind about who is to be asked, and you donm't want to have asked the wrong people. You cannot take it back once they have been given the honor.

As for the "boxes", either take that to lunch with you when you're going to ask them, and don't give it to them until they accept, or don't bother at all and buy them each a special gift for each person. There are all sorts of extra things people dream up to do for weddings that you won't need to spend the money and time on at all. It may sound like fun, but you are about to have more than plenty to spend money on and do. I would skip them, and save the money for gifts to be given the day of the wedding.Your asking them sincerely is going to be more than enough.

Don’t ask your bridesmaids immediately after getting engaged. First you need to set a date (because you cannot ask someone to participate in something if you can’t tell them exactly when and where the event will take place) , by booking a ceremony venue, reception venue, officiant and caterer. And then if that date is more than a year away you should wait until you’re under a year out to ask them.

Do not send a box. That’s presumptuous. It puts pressure on them to say yes. Just ask them in person - or over the phone if they live too far away - and give them the chance to think it over, ask questions, etc.

Save the gifts for the wedding day. And don’t give out identical matched gifts ... give each bridesmaid something she likes and will use.

If you can't "afford" the expense of a gift box that gets a "no" response, you should ask each friend via face-to-face or phone conversation. Be s ready with information on the costs they will incur, and what your expectations are. No one can make a rational decision until they know what the "honor" entrails.

Why send them a box?

Why not call each up and ask them one by one.

Tell them what you except from them, to see if they want to.

You should not ask anyone to be in your bridal party until you have your date set with a venue booked. If you do not, things could change. A person may be a yes with the first date but not the second. So do you have your date set?

Will you be my bridesmaids boxes are a waste of money