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I got engaged at 18 and married at 19. A lot of people were surprised and you could tell that they were really doubtful of our future, but they didn't really say so. My family was very supportive, but I come from a long line of women who marry young (my mom was 17 and her mom was 16). I wasn't getting married because I was pregnant or anything. We just loved each other and wanted to get hitched. His family tried to talk us out of it or into a long engagement because we were "too young", but we didn't want that either. Now, four years and two kids later, they're all eating their words. I have a wonderful marriage, an amazing family, and I don't see any of that ever changing. We are very happy. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. If it's what you both want, then do it. Don't postpone plans with each other to keep others happy, and don't let anyone talk you out of what you are both really wanting to do.

You will know that you have reached maturity when you do what is right for you without worry about being judged.

BUT ... sociological studies show that the best chance of a marriage surviving is if BOTH partners have lived on their alone, out of their parent's home and supporting themselves, for a minimum of 5 years. Has to do with being confident enough to be not feel too scared when the relationship hits rocky parts ... there are always rocky parts, and when people are scared, they get angry to try to hide the fear and to feel more powerful. The more scared they are, the angrier they get .. and the angrier we get at our spouse, the more we damage the marriage.

So ... having a thorough confidence in our ability to take care of ourselves out in this big world ... goes a loooonnnnng way to helping the marriage last.

Yes, this 5-year thing, this IS the reason why it's not really a good idea to marry young.

My first husband got married at age 20. They lasted 3 years. despite having dated fall through high school (and being each other's "first time").

My second husband got married at age 19. They lasted 15 years and had 4 kids, but the last 5 years were simply awful.

People always remember the cases that end badly. I had an bf who had done the same thing, and it ended really badly for him, since they both ended up wanting to experiment more. That's the main thing, just knowing what's out there so you're making an informed decision. But it could very well be that you do already know! If you're absolutely sure, well, give it all you've got, and people will support it in time. You don't need to convince them right now. It's your choice, and only you know how you feel about her.

She isn't making your fiance do something, she is calling and your fiance is selecting to move, nagging the fiance isn't going to aid given that she already has a mother that does that. I suppose the nice approach of addressing the difficulty is first of all to not run her mom down however rather construct your fiance up, inform her how so much you like her, what a type character she is for in need of to aid out, which she is. When any person quite realise the importance of who and what they quite are, it makes it less complicated to individuals taking competencies of them. So the extra trust she has and the extra she looks like you're in her nook it doesn't matter what, and that you are going to no longer nag however believe her judgement the less complicated and faster it'll be for her to study to mention no to others.

Keep the engagement long and give it a lot of thought. I don't want to sound cold, but the odds of it working out are against you. There's so much to do and learn before you commit to marriage at such a young age. Sorry that I'm not one of the supportive ones. I'm just telling it how it is.

No matter what your age may be, people are going to judge you. after all is said and done the two of you have to be mature enough to make that decision for yourselves. Its a life long commitment, if you feel you're ready to embark on this exciting and challenging journey go for it. Good luck!

There's no such thing as a "long engagement" - that's just boyfriend and girlfriend pretending to be more serious than their friends. So yes, people will not take you seriously and rightly so.

If your both in love and are aware of what your getting into by getting married than you should not care what others think

It doesn't matter how long you're together before marriage, after marriage you start over. The first 5 years are the roughest. After 15 years you know that you knew better, but it's too late.

Pretty simple ... WHO CARES ABOUT EVERYONE ELSE?