Hello there everyone im having a situation i have been with my girl freind for over 2 years and i feel like she is somehow getting in my way from advancing more in life im currently 27 and she is 35 we have had a very bumpy and rocky relationship. But im trying to make things work so im going to skip to the problem. Im a mechanic and i have been saving and investing into a business im trying to open ive been working very hard ive been studying doing my research to better my life and hers . But she doesn’t seem to understand that all i ask her is for some time to my self 50 minutes to a hour a day but she choosti barge in start talking messing around with me having the tv on blast it feels like she doesn’t want me to succeed. And she gets offended when i get bothered i work extremely hard i try my best to keep her happy and she cant give me my space. Then she gets mad at me because i get bothered and it ends up in a argument and it’s extremely stressful what should i do
Update:All i want is space to educate myself learn read gain knowledge thats all i ask for !
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The problem is that she is needy and selfish. THAT is why she’s not giving you time for yourself. Not only that, she doesn’t respect your wishes, nor want to allow you to be a human with emotions of you own.
You two are not suited for each other. And she is not suited for anyone.
As far as her “not letting you focus on your goals” .. don’t blame her for this. YOU are going along with it. You need time alone? Go to the library where it is quiet, or have a quiet supper at a restaurant by yourself before you go home. Or go for a long walk.
You know what you need to do. You just hate to admit it.
And all she wants is a little attention and maybe some lovin. She's probably higher sexed than you are.
I don't think this has anything to do with your goals. I had similar issues with my daughter, who is an extrovert, and thinks everyone wants constant human contact. I'm an introvert and need some time to myself. In a class I was in, we took the Myers-Briggs test, which reveals those personal characteristics. So I took the test home and gave it to her, and we discussed the results. It helped us understand each other much better. There's a version of Myer's Briggs available online. It's called the Keirsey sorter. Try getting your girlfriend to take it, and discuss what the website says about the characteristics. It might help her understand you.