Dear Ryan,

Getting over this will not be easy, since once trust has been violated, it takes a lot to rebuild it. It is possible, though, over time,provided that the cheater never, ever again repeats the violation of trust.

Time and consistent faithfulness will eventually help you, if everything else remains true and on the level.

You also asked what you could do to make the relationship stronger. I would dump the "best friend" for starters. You can also lay out very clear and firm expectations for no more cheating and inform you fiancee that you will not forgive again, if there is a repeat performance.

But be forewarned: the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior; so the job of improving the relationship falls not upon you, but upon your fiancee. Best Wishes, ~ Dr. Stephanie

If you plan on moving past this and working it out with her, then you both need to agree that you CAN NOT hold this over her head. You can't say six months down the road go "Oh yeah, well you cheated on me!"

If you move forward, it's over and done with. It's in the past.

Well, you can never have what you had before. That is dead and gone. You'll have to create something new, now that you know this woman is a liar.

This has happened to me

The relationship will never be the same

Please dont get married, you will regret it years from now

once a cheater always a cheater, walk away and find someone who will honor your relationship.