So I’ve been with my Bf for a year now and I love him but he is very controlling. This is my first relationship so I’m not sure if his behavior is normal or not. Everyone around me tells me it’s not but I want some un biased opinions.
We are both in high school I’m 18 and he’s 17. At the beginning of our relationship he was way less controlling than he is now. He slowing started making arguments when I went to a party or hung out with my friends and now it’s to the point where I don’t ever do anything Bc I don’t want any problems. which this is my fault Bc I never put my foot down. I get to see him like once a week so every other day I do nothing and lately I’ve just wanted to have some fun but if I go to a party he would probably break up with me. I have given him no reason not to trust me and I’ve even asked him if he would go with me and he won’t. He also never compromising I’m the one that has to give up everything so he will be happy. So idk what to do. Is this normal in a relationship?
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This scenario sounds exactly like a relationship I was in at your age. This is NOT healthy.. take it from someone who was in your shoes! Your boyfriend should not be so controlling, however, if that is his personality, you're going to continue to fight about this, and it's only going to become a reoccurring issue. My best advice would be to get out of the relationship. You are so young, and should not be told what you can and cannot do by some teenage boy. If you want to have some fun and go to a party with your friends, you should be able to do so. Plus, relationships cannot be one-sided as you stated, compromise is so important.
Now you're probably reflecting on everything you "cannot do" due to your bf. There are many other guys out there who will be more trusting, or even go to the party with you. Also, I was the same way. I always wanted unbiased opinions, but it took me a long time to realize that my friends were right, and only wanted what's best for me. Sure, your friends may be mad youre missing these parties, but I do not think thats why they do not like your bf. It's probably because he has control over you, and you may not see it like they do since they're looking from the outside.
If he breaks up with you because you go to a party, he's controlling and insecure Yuck
If you're talking about a party with drinking and not a family party, then I could see why... But yes, you should be able to hang out with friends.
I would not want my wife going to parties without me. When we were dating, I would have been pretty jealous and worried if she was going out partying without me.
Not normal. If he had a party to go to he would probably go without you too. You are too young to worry about this.
No. Get away asap