LADIES: my bf wants to remain life long friend of his ex-gf cause he said thats all it is, she’s bipolar & needs someone to talk to thought?
He says i dont have patience or trust but the fact that he doesn’t want to take me with him to go see his dog that she kept when they broke up, i find disrespectful. is it me or him????? honestly
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Not a good idea. You'll always be jealous and her bipolar might become worse if you are on the scene. Start mixing with others and find someone who is not committed in any way to another girl.
Why is it disrespectful of your boyfriend to go see his dog? I don't see why it is. And you're insecure, is the issue. He's with you now... she's the EX. The word "ex"? It means something -- such as "no longer together".
If you're this insecure, give up relationships all together.
You don't mention how long you've been a couple or why you think you need to keep an eagle eye on what would seem likely an adult man. There isn't anything inherently disrespectful in him not feeling he needs to have you at his side whenever he visits his dog! We don't know the players involved but it seems a bit disrespectful of you to distrust and disbelieve him so eagerly. If you don't like the facts of his life and can't live with them then you chose the wrong guy to have as your boyfriend.
Tell him you have been thinking about an EX CRUSH and plan to go see him.
See IF HE understands.
It's both. You are not meant for each other. He wants to still see 'her' and you will never be happy with that. Don't consider him your boyfriend any more. Find new friends and, through them you might meet the love of your life. Don't be in a hurry. Being a singleton for some time can be fun too.
Given that she is bipolar, she might actually need someone to talk to (bipolarity has two phases: depression and mania, with depression, people are prone to commit suicide or get involved in unsafe actions, like binge-drinking, reckless driving, self-harming, etc.; and with mania people can do the same things, they can even experience hallucinations). So I do believe him, even with medicine, bipolarity can be difficult to handle.
I would not get mad, just try to understand him, he sounds like an awesome guy, the kind of people who legitimately care about people.
And about his dog, just give it some time, he might be preparing his ex or even his dog to welcome someone new. I would recommend you to avoid being pushy or getting mad at him, he's just doing what he believes to be right.