I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year, but I’ve started having crushes on other guys.?
I know it’s wrong but I have a slight fear of being with him forever. We are in high school and I feel like we are gonna split eventually but I don’t want it to be because I wanted to hoe around for a while. What do I do?
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This isn't "wrong" in high school. You're supposed to date around as these are the years when you're first learning how to have a relationship. Things like managing disappointment, learning conflict resolution and such are developed through the series of romances you're supposed to have between the ages of about 16 and 26.
Yes .. until we have been living on our own, supporting ourselves, for AT LEAST 5 years, we don't have enough courage to make love last.
It's okay to start having crushes on other guys, but there are 2 things you need to remember:
(1) it is NEVER okay to start something with someone else until you have broken up with the current guy
(2) a crush is NO indication of lasting love. Also, crushes are temporary .. they never last. And the stronger the crush is at the start, the worse the relationship ends up being (assuming one starts).
If you are going to split up eventually split up now.
Don't be afraid of being single. Until you ARE happy, content, and comfortable being single, you will never be happy, content or comfortable in a lasting relationship either.
NOW is the time in your life to work on planning your future, getting good grades FOR your future, and on learning how to be comfortable with who you are .. and NOT using others to try to make your life better.