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OMG people are so judgmental about prenups. Yes, they entirely unromantic, but marriage isn't all about love and romance. It's also about the merging and protection of assets. No matter how unsexy and unromantic a prenup may seem, it is a cold hard fact that half of all marriages eventually end in divorce. It has nothing to do with trust or lack of faith in the relationship. If you divorce fifteen years from now you could end up paying him alimony payments to keep him in a lifestyle to which he had become accustomed. Making it an all-or-nothing proposition, however, may be putting him off. Try offering a compromise, give him room to negotiate. For example, all the money you have earned/earn prior to marriage, as well as the other assets you own prior to marriage are absolutely yours and not-contestable should the marriage end, then he has no legal claim to your pre-marital assets. He should also have no legal claim to your retirement accounts.

However, as a cardiologist at one of the most prestigious hospitals in the world you are going to spend a lot of time away from home at work. He will be responsible for keeping your home running, making sure day-to-day things happen on time when you're on long shifts, taking care of the kids down the line (if you choose to have them) because your career will always place more demands on your time than his ... these are things you should take into account. Beyond the advice of not conceding any asset you hold prior to the marriage, I'm not suggesting what concessions you should make ... only that you should be open to making some.

I believe in prenups with today's high divorce rates BUT ONLY for assets acquired before marriage. Thus, if due to your large salary you own your own house or have a condo you rent out, etc. then fine. Protect these assets with a prenup.

However, if you're thinking he should agree to you protecting income, assets and interest you acquire during your marriage years then I think you are asking too much. Marriage is a partnership and marriage is a gamble. If you don't trust him, yourself or your marriage enough to take a full plunge into marriage then just don't get married (or just don't get married to Nick).

You probably should just not get married. He has the better job to be the primary caretaker of any children that come out of the marriage. You can't exactly call out of surgery because one of your kids needs to be picked up from daycare and you won't have your summers off and every school vacation off. There is a case for figuring out what you would agree to in the event that things went sour, but I would say if there were children involved you would still end up being the one paying child support. I don't know how much you make - and I'm sure it's significantly more than he does - but he probably has great benefits and an excellent retirement package...Prenups would be a must for someone with millions and a great deal of property...why don't you talk to a lawyer about what happens if you just keep things in your name alone if there is a split. Marital property gets divided but not sure if he would get half of an account in your name or half of a house in your name only.

Anyone who says NO to a prenup has nothing to lose. That simple.

Me and my lady just went through this same thing.

It's 2013 ladies and gentleman and the divorce rate is over 50%. 50%!!!!

That's wayyy too much of a risk to take for something you worked your entire life to get!

Pre nups have absolutely nothing to do with trust. They are an insurance policy.

No one expects to die but millions of people have life insurance... why is that? Because **** happens.

Isn't it funny that the person who doesn't want a prenup is ALWAYS AND I MEAN ALLLWAYYYS the person who has the least to lose and the most to gain?

Coincidence? I think not.

If "a few other assets to protect" means your family's treasures or properties.. then it is completely above board to ask your fiance to agree, upfront, that he has no claim on them.

If you are concerned about protecting your salary from your fiance who earns less... I would expect that conversation to be very awkward indeed. Marriages are about building together with the materials and assets you bring into the marriage. Not the ones you want to make sure never to share. You get a Lincoln and he gets a VW? That can't be where you are coming from.

my belief is that you go into marriage trusting that the marriage will last and be happy, you shouldn't go into it thinking "oh well, if we get divorced he (or she) can't get any of my money."

I actually married an extremely wealthy man. neither he nor i even considered a prenup (this was many years ago). after five children and 20 years I told him I was divorcing him. he immediately (without my knowledge of course) transferred all his assets into offshore funds. I walked out of the marriage with virtually nothing except my engagement and wedding ring.

in your case even though you say you trust your fiancé, you go on to say "in case of something happening" - so you're speaking out of both sides of your mouth. you're a cardiologist and yet you are still listening to what daddy tells you. I don't think that you're mature enough to get married. stay single and count your assets every evening!

If you want a prenup then I don't think that you will have a happy marriage. I seems as if you look down on Nick because he isn't rich.

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The least you should do is tell him what you think is fair. If he agrees with you, sign under those terms. Other wise, check with a lawyer. Good luck.