I emailed her after 2 years not talking to her and told her I hoped she was okay and I missed her. She wrote back that she really misses me a lot and wants to talk to me and see me and we should be friends again. She asked if I had a girlfriend.
The thing is I stopped talking to her for a reason, she is too needy and she expected me to drop everything for her. Plus she is kind of crazy, not cute crazy either I mean she cuts herself and she has been hospitalized more than once, she is on like a bunch of different meds (and by “on” I mean she should be taking them but she doesn’t).
I think she wants to be my friend again, I think she wants to be my girlfriend. The cold hard truth is I could use a friend right now, and I could use a girlfriend right now, but I don’t want either of them to be her.
She has a lot of emotional problems but so do I and I think we make it worst for each other. We bring out the worst in each other. I mean we click in a way that I don’t click with anyone else but we click in a bad way. We are not good for each other.
I have tried to tell her all of this before and she just doesn’t get it or doesn’t want to get it.
I feel like my emailing her I just opened a can of worms, I don’t know what to do. She I see her and talk to her, or email her, or just not respond at all. I don’t want to hurt her, but I am not going to let her hurt me.
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Something inside you triggered the email you sent. There must have been a reason after all this time.
I think you should at least send her one more, letting her know that you just wanted to check on her to see how she was doing. Maybe you could agree to talk once a month to allow each other room and yet to also keep in touch.
If that feels like too much to you, I think you should tell her.
It sounds like you might have been right the first time when you decided to stop talking to her. Sometimes letting someone go is the best thing you can do for each other. Maybe just tell her you aren't ready to face her yet, but continue to check in on her with e-mails.