When I was younger I was out of control, to say the least. I had issues with alcohol, drugs, and had multiple flings with women who were just as bad off as I was. Well when I was 20 I turned my life around and I’m a very different person. About 6 months ago however my past caught up with me. Long story short I found out that I have a 4 year old daughter named Maya, her mother died of a drug overdose when she was 2 and ever since she’s been living in foster care. As soon as I found out I went through the process of gaining custody of her and she’s been living with me ever since.
I feel so guilty for not knowing about her sooner. God knows what’s she’s been through, and if I had known about her sooner I could have prevented it. She’s starting to trust me more and open up to me but she just seems so afraid of everyone and everything else. I love her so much but I don’t know how to help her. The other day I felt horrible, Maya accidently pushed over a plate and she automatically acted as if I was going to hit her. When she realized that I wasn’t and that I wasn’t even upset she just started crying and shaking. When I gave her a hug and told her it was ok that helped but honestly it really upset me.
I was told that she had never been physically abused but from the way she’s been acting that doesn’t seem to be the case. I don’t want to get her a psychiatrist, she’s far to young and Im afraid that it’s just going to make her more uneasy. I just want to help her but I don’t know how. What can I do to make things easier for her?
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Aw ur a sweet person and poor girl she must off been abused u can help her show her care and love and in a little while shell open out hug u and trust u don't feel bad u didn't know but that dosent mean u can't help her u can teach her u won't hurt her and will always love her and she is far to young for a therapist a child can be more complex than a scientist u won't help her go over it I'll figure out how to stop it and repair it hope this helped
First of all, I think this is really personal that should be treated with people of your trust not a bunch of strangers in internet to be honest.
but, even when you don´t want to, perhaps it could be good at least for you to ask to a psychologist what you can do, the other good approach to this could be with a "drawings" expert its a mix of psychologist and children´s drawings interpretate that without the idea of "therapy" will allow the child to communicate through drawings whatever happened it will be shown, I like this approach more than the psychologist only but well, that depends too if you can find a trustworthy one.
If you can after you get your answer try to erase this question, you never know who reads this. Try to ask the personal things to family or else not in here if I may say.
Good luck.
She's probable had some trauma, and you will't undo that. the suited element to do is to proceed to learn her have confidence, she's youthful and she or he'll lose fairly stress on a daily basis based on the way you take care of her. the suited suggestion that i grants all people with a youthful baby is to keep in mind that they are certainly 2 or 4 or 5 years previous and that they act for that reason, on the thank you to assume them to act like an person can't ensue. young toddlers act on impulse, till they study how society shapes norms. So enable your baby be a baby, and revel in that. from time to time, i'm getting mad at my son with the aid of fact he acts like a typical 5 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous (he's 5), and in contrast to a image suited baby in a commercial with grade A manners. it particularly can't ensue! reliable success!
Therapy would help. Working with that, and doing some of what your already doing should be enough for her to open up to you.
Stories.
Tell her stories, read her stories, ask her to make up stories too. Lots and lots of stories.